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I received a call from a nearby emergency room. Ex was brought in after a cardiac event of some sort. He is unconscious, not breathing on his own, and described as "very, very sick". I asked if he was expected to survive and the nurse said "probably not". I asked if I should bring my daughter in to say goodbye. The nurse asked how old she was and I told her. The nurse said I should prepare to bring her in, but that I should wait until after the attending physician has spoken to me. So I am waiting for the attending to call and let me know whether I have to tell my daughter that her father is dying and then take her to see him for the last time. I am shaking and in shock. I have known for a long time that this might be coming but it is still overwhelming. If you pray, please pray for me and my daughter and her father, that he might find peace somehow.
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Sending prayers for you and your family. I just want to offer (((hugs))). I'm so sorry that you are going through this and I do hope that your daughter gets to see her father. I also hope that he pulls through this.
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I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I hope you can access a social worker who can give you and your daughter support. As much as we may expect to get the same news, we can never prepare for it. Thinking of you xx.
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My ex-husband died a few hours ago. He never regained consciousness. I took my daughter to the hospital but he was already gone. We saw the body and said goodbye. I said that I remembered our good years, that I hoped he was at peace, and that I would take care of our daughter. I have no idea what comes next, other than notifying people. His girlfriend/fiancee is the next of kin. Unfortunately, she is also an addict.
I feel tremendous sadness - for the loss of the relationship we had before alcohol and mental illness took over, for the absolute waste of his life, for my daughter, who is still trying to process what happened. Part of me feels free for the first time in many years, and I feel guilty about that although I know it is normal. I'll write more soon.
I feel tremendous sadness - for the loss of the relationship we had before alcohol and mental illness took over, for the absolute waste of his life, for my daughter, who is still trying to process what happened. Part of me feels free for the first time in many years, and I feel guilty about that although I know it is normal. I'll write more soon.
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Heartbreaking news. I am so sorry that your daughter, yourself and all that loved him have to endure the grief of this untimely death. Holding you and Kid in my thoughts today and beaming love your way.
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Oh Sasha, expecting something to happen one day, and it actually happening is a huge gap. Wow, so sudden and sad that he never found recovery.
Thinking of you and your DD. She is in good hands.
Thinking of you and your DD. She is in good hands.
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I hate addiction sooooo much! I hate how much it takes from those who suffer from it. I hate how much it takes from those who love those who suffer from it. I hate how much pain and loss and grief it causes.
Sasha, you, your precious daughter, and all who loved this man are in my prayers and will remain there. May you be surrounded and supported by your guardian angels and family and friends who love you!
Sasha, you, your precious daughter, and all who loved this man are in my prayers and will remain there. May you be surrounded and supported by your guardian angels and family and friends who love you!
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I’m so very sorry, I remember that knock on my door, the hospital sent police to my house looking for next of kin, it was an heroin overdose. He was on life support not expected to survive. He didn’t, I was able to take both kids to say goodbye, he had never regained consciousness.
School counselors were a godsend, they keep the info confidential. I know my teen daughter was very upset, she’s better able to talk about it now, it’s been 2 years.
Even though we we have an idea this is the way it’s going to end, it’s still a shock nonetheless.
The anger will set set in soon, just hold tight and ride the wave until it subsides.
Strength and peace sent your way.
School counselors were a godsend, they keep the info confidential. I know my teen daughter was very upset, she’s better able to talk about it now, it’s been 2 years.
Even though we we have an idea this is the way it’s going to end, it’s still a shock nonetheless.
The anger will set set in soon, just hold tight and ride the wave until it subsides.
Strength and peace sent your way.
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