9 Months Sober Today
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9 Months Sober Today
This is my longest stretch since my first try ended 14 years ago. Back almost 30 years ago I was introduced to “cocktail hour” @ a tennis club my wife & I joined. I got sick of my daily pot smoking & had no trouble stopping, even after many years. I never liked beer & wine, took to long to get buzzed I guess, & didn’t like the taste. Drank scotch occasionally & didn’t really like that either. Got plastered once in a while. But cocktail hour was cool. Who knew that 10 years later I’d be drinking vodka from the time I woke up until I passed out @ night, wake up, repeat. The occasional binge& blackout.
My father, who was also my partner, died of a heart attack at age 73. The drinking reached epic proportions. The only thing I liked to do was drink scotch (later switched to vodka, cheaper) & read Harry Potter. My wife said “do me a favor, don’t tell anybody that”. We separated & I quit drinking. 11 months later I had the **** its. In the last 3 years, I’ve had 8 months sober after diagnosed as bipolar & alcohol dependent, on lithium for 6 months, lots of staring into space. Relapsed. Sober. Tried to moderate twice. Relapse, relapse. Shakes, puffy, red face, lack of well being. Not exercising. Go to cancel membership & the guy said “why don’t you freeze it, we’d hate to lose you, just need a doctors note.” Can’t do it. Personal reasons. He froze it anyway. Exercised every day since, lost 20 pounds, gained muscle weight. Exercise has been critical to me staying sober. Thanks for reading.
My father, who was also my partner, died of a heart attack at age 73. The drinking reached epic proportions. The only thing I liked to do was drink scotch (later switched to vodka, cheaper) & read Harry Potter. My wife said “do me a favor, don’t tell anybody that”. We separated & I quit drinking. 11 months later I had the **** its. In the last 3 years, I’ve had 8 months sober after diagnosed as bipolar & alcohol dependent, on lithium for 6 months, lots of staring into space. Relapsed. Sober. Tried to moderate twice. Relapse, relapse. Shakes, puffy, red face, lack of well being. Not exercising. Go to cancel membership & the guy said “why don’t you freeze it, we’d hate to lose you, just need a doctors note.” Can’t do it. Personal reasons. He froze it anyway. Exercised every day since, lost 20 pounds, gained muscle weight. Exercise has been critical to me staying sober. Thanks for reading.
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Tail,
We addicts will want to get high for the rest of our lives.
I still get high everyday, but I do it with coffee, moringa, exercise, and good deeds. I am a big tipper because it feels good to make someone's day a little better.
My strength has improved as well. I am looking forward to increases in strength and stamina for at least a few more years. I am 54, but was so out of shape there is growth potential.
Keep posting because I am reading.
Thanks for the therapy.
We addicts will want to get high for the rest of our lives.
I still get high everyday, but I do it with coffee, moringa, exercise, and good deeds. I am a big tipper because it feels good to make someone's day a little better.
My strength has improved as well. I am looking forward to increases in strength and stamina for at least a few more years. I am 54, but was so out of shape there is growth potential.
Keep posting because I am reading.
Thanks for the therapy.
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Join Date: Jan 2018
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Congratulations on your nine months from a fellow CPA! Nine months is huge.
I'm a lot like you. Beer and wine never did it for me, but rum and Harry Potter did. And I quit drugs, sheesh, 22 years ago and never looked back, but alcohol got its hooks in me ferociously for over 30 years.
Keep going on your path. I know we all keep saying it gets better, but it really does. Some days are absolute crap and horrible to get through, but by and large, the world is a bigger, brighter place without drinking.
Wishing you all the best on your journey!
I'm a lot like you. Beer and wine never did it for me, but rum and Harry Potter did. And I quit drugs, sheesh, 22 years ago and never looked back, but alcohol got its hooks in me ferociously for over 30 years.
Keep going on your path. I know we all keep saying it gets better, but it really does. Some days are absolute crap and horrible to get through, but by and large, the world is a bigger, brighter place without drinking.
Wishing you all the best on your journey!
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Join Date: Apr 2018
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Huge congrats Tailia! Absolutely identify with the stopping weed, not liking alcohol at all....5 years down the line drinking vodka neat from the bottle, regular blackouts and binges to at the end having a glass of wine for breakfast! I wouldn’t have believed that would happen to me...but it did.
Exercise has been so important for me too! It’s had the most impact in sobriety from loosing weight, helping me sleep better, eat better and clearing and focusing my over active addict brain.
Keep up the good work! xx
Exercise has been so important for me too! It’s had the most impact in sobriety from loosing weight, helping me sleep better, eat better and clearing and focusing my over active addict brain.
Keep up the good work! xx
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Congratulations for 9 months. I will be 3 weeks tomorrow. Cannot imagine what 9 months will be like.
I read because my father was alcoholic also. He was succesful guy, nice home everything. It did not stop him.
I havent mentioned this here before because I thought people would say 'can you not see what alcohol can do?' - maybe this is part of the insanity.
So I am glad to see it posted by someone.
And also yes - I lost good relationships and finished up alone here.
But I am now eating really healthy for first time of a long time. And I just come back sweating like crazy from the park. Trying to exercise, and tomorrow morning I am going to gym for first time in years!! - Have an appointment with trainer and then I will maybe go 2 or 3 times each week.
I am getting sober to have a better fuller life, not the same life without alcohol - that would be so empty.
And I really like what d122y said:
'We addicts will want to get high for the rest of our lives'
I think about this and then I think - yes, that is why I find it difficult to sit alone in my apartment after work. It is SO important to go out and do things where there is no drinking! and to have some interests or do something.
Glad I read this thread!
I read because my father was alcoholic also. He was succesful guy, nice home everything. It did not stop him.
I havent mentioned this here before because I thought people would say 'can you not see what alcohol can do?' - maybe this is part of the insanity.
So I am glad to see it posted by someone.
And also yes - I lost good relationships and finished up alone here.
But I am now eating really healthy for first time of a long time. And I just come back sweating like crazy from the park. Trying to exercise, and tomorrow morning I am going to gym for first time in years!! - Have an appointment with trainer and then I will maybe go 2 or 3 times each week.
I am getting sober to have a better fuller life, not the same life without alcohol - that would be so empty.
And I really like what d122y said:
'We addicts will want to get high for the rest of our lives'
I think about this and then I think - yes, that is why I find it difficult to sit alone in my apartment after work. It is SO important to go out and do things where there is no drinking! and to have some interests or do something.
Glad I read this thread!
Last edited by ConfusedGuy; 04-27-2019 at 08:16 AM. Reason: mistake
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Originally Posted by Tailai 
Thanks Ghost & for sticking up for me the other day.
You're welcome. And thanks for the acknowledgement.
Sometimes we have to stand up for one another when, and if, we can't stand up for ourselves.
What makes me feel good is your nine months.
P.S. I gave $2 (all the cash I had on me) to a homeless made laying on a little piece of grass. He didn't ask me for it.
We're all in this together. One way or another, we're sill in this together.
Now celebrate your nine months by doing something nice for yourself. That's an order!
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