Drugged, drunk on a Monday afternoon
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*****, the lot of 'em. Apart from one of their girlfriends, who is decent. The rest of the people (that I live with) can burn in every kind of hell for all I care. Clearly we get on well, in our house...
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Tetrax, you know what we are going to say: stop now, get sober, and get help to stay that way.
It's up to you, not anyone else, like I just repeated to BanAlcohol.
This is always a point I have to make bluntly when someone is struggling, as I was, til I finally got sick enough (in all ways) to quit.
We are here when you do. Please do.
It's up to you, not anyone else, like I just repeated to BanAlcohol.
This is always a point I have to make bluntly when someone is struggling, as I was, til I finally got sick enough (in all ways) to quit.
We are here when you do. Please do.
They aren't holding you down and pouring the booze or pills down your throat.
You need to own your responsibility for your own recovery Tetrax for it to ever have a chance to succeed.
If you aren't ready to quit, you aren't. I wasn't for a very long time and it nearly killed me in the end.
Finally I got the message that I'm 100% in charge of my life choices, and I have to put 100% effort and will into quitting and creating a wonderful sober life. The choice was always mine, and not "caused" by my drinking spouse, my alcoholic mother, my addicted friends. All on me.
I hope you find your way to that clairity sooner than I did, and before it's too late.
You need to own your responsibility for your own recovery Tetrax for it to ever have a chance to succeed.
If you aren't ready to quit, you aren't. I wasn't for a very long time and it nearly killed me in the end.
Finally I got the message that I'm 100% in charge of my life choices, and I have to put 100% effort and will into quitting and creating a wonderful sober life. The choice was always mine, and not "caused" by my drinking spouse, my alcoholic mother, my addicted friends. All on me.
I hope you find your way to that clairity sooner than I did, and before it's too late.
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They aren't holding you down and pouring the booze or pills down your throat.
You need to own your responsibility for your own recovery Tetrax for it to ever have a chance to succeed.
If you aren't ready to quit, you aren't. I wasn't for a very long time and it nearly killed me in the end.
Finally I got the message that I'm 100% in charge of my life choices, and I have to put 100% effort and will into quitting and creating a wonderful sober life. The choice was always mine, and not "caused" by my drinking spouse, my alcoholic mother, my addicted friends. All on me.
I hope you find your way to that clairity sooner than I did, and before it's too late.
You need to own your responsibility for your own recovery Tetrax for it to ever have a chance to succeed.
If you aren't ready to quit, you aren't. I wasn't for a very long time and it nearly killed me in the end.
Finally I got the message that I'm 100% in charge of my life choices, and I have to put 100% effort and will into quitting and creating a wonderful sober life. The choice was always mine, and not "caused" by my drinking spouse, my alcoholic mother, my addicted friends. All on me.
I hope you find your way to that clairity sooner than I did, and before it's too late.
I don't wish it had happened sooner because I needed to do everything that I did, but the only way to get to where I am now and where I will go was to stop. I'm going to die, but not because I kept drinking. Up to each of us.
I'm not sure what you are wanting folks to say...? I made up every excuse there was to keep drinking and drugging, for 30 years.
If you want to get clean, you can get clean. If you want to continue hanging out with your flatmates, you may end up getting the same results?? Drugged, drunk on a Monday afternoon
It's up to you!
If you want to get clean, you can get clean. If you want to continue hanging out with your flatmates, you may end up getting the same results?? Drugged, drunk on a Monday afternoon
It's up to you!
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OK I'm drunk and sorry I am being petty. But I swear I can't afford to move out. I'm barely holding on to my job/benefits from my last relapse. I know AA is what I need probably!!!
I just don't believe in god or spirituality etc.
I just don't believe in god or spirituality etc.
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I mean this sincerely, not in a patronizing way - in a factual, program of AA way.
You don't have to believe in God, or "spirituality." First, you have to have a desire to stop drinking. Plenty of people still drink when they start AA though most find it actually starts to make sense when they quit. And, then, you have to accept you can't drink and that your life is "unmanageable," so that's the only strictly AA word I'll throw in: and drugged and drunk on a Mon afternoon is that indeed, yes?
Only then, at Step 2 does ANYTHING beyond you enter in: and it's just being willing to consider that there is anything beyond you. Period.
There's a reason Step 1 is the first, and plenty of people don't go beyond that- and you know what? Any alcoholic who quits drinking is better than one who stays drunk. Aim for that, and leave the rest, whether you do AA or not, for later.
I promise you that's how all of us started: quitting.
And for the record, a lot of AA sayings p*ssed me off when I first started it. Some still annoy me but there's a reason there are so many sayings. If you give any a chance- or sayings that work for you from ANY program, including stuff we say around here! - you will inevitably find some that fit you.
If you are sober.
You don't have to believe in God, or "spirituality." First, you have to have a desire to stop drinking. Plenty of people still drink when they start AA though most find it actually starts to make sense when they quit. And, then, you have to accept you can't drink and that your life is "unmanageable," so that's the only strictly AA word I'll throw in: and drugged and drunk on a Mon afternoon is that indeed, yes?
Only then, at Step 2 does ANYTHING beyond you enter in: and it's just being willing to consider that there is anything beyond you. Period.
There's a reason Step 1 is the first, and plenty of people don't go beyond that- and you know what? Any alcoholic who quits drinking is better than one who stays drunk. Aim for that, and leave the rest, whether you do AA or not, for later.
I promise you that's how all of us started: quitting.
And for the record, a lot of AA sayings p*ssed me off when I first started it. Some still annoy me but there's a reason there are so many sayings. If you give any a chance- or sayings that work for you from ANY program, including stuff we say around here! - you will inevitably find some that fit you.
If you are sober.
Whether you go to AA or not.....maybe the first step is to detach from your partying roommates. You can stay in your room and watch movies, post on SR, meditate, read, journal, listen to music, write letters to family, play video games, do word puzzles....get the point?
Just because your friends are getting high, doesn't mean you HAVE to join in. Do you want to get sober???????????
Just because your friends are getting high, doesn't mean you HAVE to join in. Do you want to get sober???????????
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Thanks guys, appreciate your posts. In all honesty I already know the program I wish to take up to get sober. No matter how much I slag it off, I've been to more AA meetings than any other and have heard more things that I have related to within those meetings than I have talking to laypeople (hell, often even talking to family and friends). I've been to SMART meetings, read up on AVRT, have done CBT regards other mental health issues, but I KNOW, DEEP DOWN, alcohol is different. And I hate to admit it, I relate to those AA folk more than with anyone else I've opened up to with my alcohol issues in the past.
If I can find a way I actually do want to end up in AA, 'cause this thread is basically the summation of the 'fun times' of me drinking alone (and alone is all I've been drinking, by and large, for over a damn year now).
To conclude, sorry for being a petty drunk in this thread. This has just been honest, and how I've been today. But hopefully not tomorrow.
If I can find a way I actually do want to end up in AA, 'cause this thread is basically the summation of the 'fun times' of me drinking alone (and alone is all I've been drinking, by and large, for over a damn year now).
To conclude, sorry for being a petty drunk in this thread. This has just been honest, and how I've been today. But hopefully not tomorrow.
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Dude, I was a petty drunk plenty of times. We get it.
And who really WANTS to do AA? Well, some people say they did and found the light the first time they walked into a room, but THIS alcoholic right here fought it every step of the way. My dad used to say, "fine, you want to do it your way, keep trying; I'll just tell you I know a whole lot of people who got sober in AA." Like many things he has said during my life, he was wise- and right.
I wanted to stop drinking (finally) - but I can say I didn't "want" to go to meetings. It was my only choice, though, because I knew deep down I needed IRL help.
That first meeting is the hardest. You've been before, so you probably know that. It sounds to me like you know what you need to do - my crazy alcoholic self was one pretty much everyone thought would put 200% "effort" into dying- or into being sober. Toss up which I'd do. You know what I'm going to say about which life I picked
Stick around. Like I said above, we get it.
And who really WANTS to do AA? Well, some people say they did and found the light the first time they walked into a room, but THIS alcoholic right here fought it every step of the way. My dad used to say, "fine, you want to do it your way, keep trying; I'll just tell you I know a whole lot of people who got sober in AA." Like many things he has said during my life, he was wise- and right.
I wanted to stop drinking (finally) - but I can say I didn't "want" to go to meetings. It was my only choice, though, because I knew deep down I needed IRL help.
That first meeting is the hardest. You've been before, so you probably know that. It sounds to me like you know what you need to do - my crazy alcoholic self was one pretty much everyone thought would put 200% "effort" into dying- or into being sober. Toss up which I'd do. You know what I'm going to say about which life I picked
Stick around. Like I said above, we get it.
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Tetrax nowhere in this world do we get to dictate the behavior of others.
People have free will - good bad, whatever
Its very freeing when we allow others to do their own thing and stop trying to control what we will never be able to control. Someone else.
If a group or individuals behavior is abhorrant in any way I leave. Or call a cop.
I moved to a rural community and Im pretty sure my neighbors think Im too stuck up for words.
Too bad. They drink, they smoke weed and theyre all over 50.
Im very careful who I allow into my life.
This is a huge learning experience for you.
I read somewhere once:
Look at the people you allow into your life, THAT is who you are.
You can build a better future by taking control of your own actions and choices.
People have free will - good bad, whatever
Its very freeing when we allow others to do their own thing and stop trying to control what we will never be able to control. Someone else.
If a group or individuals behavior is abhorrant in any way I leave. Or call a cop.
I moved to a rural community and Im pretty sure my neighbors think Im too stuck up for words.
Too bad. They drink, they smoke weed and theyre all over 50.
Im very careful who I allow into my life.
This is a huge learning experience for you.
I read somewhere once:
Look at the people you allow into your life, THAT is who you are.
You can build a better future by taking control of your own actions and choices.
I didn't believe in God either before. I just started with if there is one, I am pretty sure it ain't me. That's was as much as I could handle. It worked its way out in spite of myself.
Sending good thoughts your way T.
Sending good thoughts your way T.
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