Admitting there’s a problem
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Admitting there’s a problem
Hello all,
Today is the day I decided to finally say I have a problem and I don’t want to drink anymore.
Ive kept it a secret, but I have been drinking 5 nights a week for 5 months. It didn’t seem that long to me, but I noticed my one glass of wine turned to three a night. And I knew i would drink more if I didn’t have my two young kids at home. I also knew it was a problem because when I did get to go out without the kids, I would drink myself stupid (embarrassing) and not stop I never did know when I’ve “had enough” ever since I started at 14. I can’t turn down alcohol - if it’s there I will drink it.
I opened up and told my mom and husband today about how I’ve been feeling like a problem. They both think I’m just bored after the kids go To bed but I do not. They are supportive either way.
I’m hoping I’m able to get through this. I haven’t gone more than a night without a drink in a long time. Thanks for reading
Today is the day I decided to finally say I have a problem and I don’t want to drink anymore.
Ive kept it a secret, but I have been drinking 5 nights a week for 5 months. It didn’t seem that long to me, but I noticed my one glass of wine turned to three a night. And I knew i would drink more if I didn’t have my two young kids at home. I also knew it was a problem because when I did get to go out without the kids, I would drink myself stupid (embarrassing) and not stop I never did know when I’ve “had enough” ever since I started at 14. I can’t turn down alcohol - if it’s there I will drink it.
I opened up and told my mom and husband today about how I’ve been feeling like a problem. They both think I’m just bored after the kids go To bed but I do not. They are supportive either way.
I’m hoping I’m able to get through this. I haven’t gone more than a night without a drink in a long time. Thanks for reading
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Welcome, Lilyflower - I'm so glad you found us. You're in good company - we all understand.
That was the hard part for me - the admission. I drank many years & always thought I would one day be able to control it with willpower. I failed to realize that once that first drink is in our system, anything can happen. The only way to get free is to stop all together. You can do it!
That was the hard part for me - the admission. I drank many years & always thought I would one day be able to control it with willpower. I failed to realize that once that first drink is in our system, anything can happen. The only way to get free is to stop all together. You can do it!
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Hello and welcome. You've found a great place for support.
I started drinking at fourteen, too. And I would drink alcoholicly for the next thirty years.
Good for you for realizing you may have a problem and coming clean with it.
That's very brave of you.
It took me a long time to admit my drinking problem, but deep down I knew I had one for many years.
I hope you can quit on your own, and if you find you can't there are options.
Best to you and you're not alone.
I started drinking at fourteen, too. And I would drink alcoholicly for the next thirty years.
Good for you for realizing you may have a problem and coming clean with it.
That's very brave of you.
It took me a long time to admit my drinking problem, but deep down I knew I had one for many years.
I hope you can quit on your own, and if you find you can't there are options.
Best to you and you're not alone.
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Welcome Lily! 
That's the name of one of my cats and is a favorite name of mine.
You are smart to stop drinking before bad things can happen - and they will, if you continue to drink.
There's lots of support here. I hope you'll use our support to help you get sober for good.
That's the name of one of my cats and is a favorite name of mine. You are smart to stop drinking before bad things can happen - and they will, if you continue to drink.
There's lots of support here. I hope you'll use our support to help you get sober for good.
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Hello Lilyflower0,
I started drinking very early also. I am now 51 and 36 days sober. This is a great place to be. Take advantage of the wisdom within.
The best thing about being sober, is being sober. No hangovers. No wondering what you did the night before and to whom. Life is better without alcohol. You can do it!
I started drinking very early also. I am now 51 and 36 days sober. This is a great place to be. Take advantage of the wisdom within.
The best thing about being sober, is being sober. No hangovers. No wondering what you did the night before and to whom. Life is better without alcohol. You can do it!
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Originally Posted by Hevyn 
Welcome, Lilyflower - I'm so glad you found us. You're in good company - we all understand.
That was the hard part for me - the admission. I drank many years & always thought I would one day be able to control it with willpower. I failed to realize that once that first drink is in our system, anything can happen. The only way to get free is to stop all together. You can do it!
That was the hard part for me - the admission. I drank many years & always thought I would one day be able to control it with willpower. I failed to realize that once that first drink is in our system, anything can happen. The only way to get free is to stop all together. You can do it!
Thank you ! I always thought with time, maturity, kids, etc that I would learn to pace myself but I never caught on. Better late than never to realize ? 😂
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Originally Posted by Ghostlight1
Hello and welcome. You've found a great place for support.
I started drinking at fourteen, too. And I would drink alcoholicly for the next thirty years.
Good for you for realizing you may have a problem and coming clean with it.
That's very brave of you.
It took me a long time to admit my drinking problem, but deep down I knew I had one for many years.
I hope you can quit on your own, and if you find you can't there are options.
Best to you and you're not alone.
I started drinking at fourteen, too. And I would drink alcoholicly for the next thirty years.
Good for you for realizing you may have a problem and coming clean with it.
That's very brave of you.
It took me a long time to admit my drinking problem, but deep down I knew I had one for many years.
I hope you can quit on your own, and if you find you can't there are options.
Best to you and you're not alone.
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Originally Posted by least
Welcome Lily! That's the name of one of my cats and is a favorite name of mine.
You are smart to stop drinking before bad things can happen - and they will, if you continue to drink.
There's lots of support here. I hope you'll use our support to help you get sober for good.
That's the name of one of my cats and is a favorite name of mine. You are smart to stop drinking before bad things can happen - and they will, if you continue to drink.
There's lots of support here. I hope you'll use our support to help you get sober for good.
thank you - this forum is my first stop. I hope it is helpful as well. Do you find posting a lot helps or just browsing the site ?
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Originally Posted by Chrissy1104
Hello Lilyflower0,
I started drinking very early also. I am now 51 and 36 days sober. This is a great place to be. Take advantage of the wisdom within.
The best thing about being sober, is being sober. No hangovers. No wondering what you did the night before and to whom. Life is better without alcohol. You can do it!
I started drinking very early also. I am now 51 and 36 days sober. This is a great place to be. Take advantage of the wisdom within.
The best thing about being sober, is being sober. No hangovers. No wondering what you did the night before and to whom. Life is better without alcohol. You can do it!
thank you so much for your encouragement. Congrats on your 36 days !
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thank you - this forum is my first stop. I hope it is helpful as well. Do you find posting a lot helps or just browsing the site ?
Posting or just browsing? In the beginning I browsed a lot - really a lot, and read as much as I could. I posted when I felt like it , but when I joined a class is when I started posting more .
I was amazed at the fact that people responded and cared. SR has saved my life - honestly- you have come to the right place . Good luck.
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Originally Posted by Hevyn
How's it going today, Lily? Thinking of you.
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I could never imagine my life without it - and in the beginning I felt disoriented. We go through many phases as we heal. It didn't take long to love my new normal, though. You will get there. You're doing great.
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It really does appear that you are going to get a handle on the situation before it gets out of control. So so wise of you. Three glasses of wine per night is definitely not a healthy habit to have, but before you know it you would be counting the bottles per night rather than the glasses. That is a common progression. So courageous and wise for you to do it now. I think one of the first things you will notice is how calm the bedtime routine with the kids becomes and how you will almost immediately start to enjoy that. The kids will pick up on it too. You will be so much more present for them. Glad you are posting here on RS Lilyflower.
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Originally Posted by Broncosys
It really does appear that you are going to get a handle on the situation before it gets out of control. So so wise of you. Three glasses of wine per night is definitely not a healthy habit to have, but before you know it you would be counting the bottles per night rather than the glasses. That is a common progression. So courageous and wise for you to do it now. I think one of the first things you will notice is how calm the bedtime routine with the kids becomes and how you will almost immediately start to enjoy that. The kids will pick up on it too. You will be so much more present for them. Glad you are posting here on RS Lilyflower.
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