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Old 03-22-2019, 11:08 AM
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Todays the day!

I just wanted to say hello and stop lurking
I just need to find the strength to quit. my issue just like many others is I cannot have 1. My mental thinking is - is there enough or should I go buy more. Anyways enough of that.
Thank you to everyone for sharing what you are going through and allow me to read the posts. I can see that yes I am not the only one, it will be a battle and it can be conquered

Day 1

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Old 03-22-2019, 11:19 AM
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Welcome to the family. Take advantage of the awesome support here and post often. I hope we can help you get sober for good.
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Old 03-22-2019, 12:03 PM
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Welcome to SR fineartshooter! Posting more was the best thing I ever did, getting involved with this community really helped keep me on the right track. It can be done and we've all been where you are right now. Why don't you join the monthly class which is full of folks starting on their sober journey this month. It's where I started and chatting with peeps that were going through the exact same challenges and at the same stage as me was worth it's weight in gold! You can do this! xx
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Old 03-22-2019, 12:11 PM
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Hello and welcome, you've found a great place for support.
No, you're not the only one. There are many of us here seeking the same or different ways to stop drinking.
It is a battle that can be won, but it may take work on your part.
I could never have one drink, either. It was all or nothing for me.

I found support here and in AA. They're both lifesavers. Have you thought of a recovery program?
Many of us use them. It's tough to do it, quit I mean, without support. But I can only speak for myself.
Again, welcome and post away.
Best to you.
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Old 03-22-2019, 12:15 PM
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Ahhhh....I remember the "do I have enough or do I need to buy more?" feeling.

For me...enough was never enough until I was passed out. Then when I woke up from a state of unconsciousness, did I have a little left over to chase that hangover... sad times.

Welcome, and congrats on starting your sober journey.
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Old 03-22-2019, 05:31 PM
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Oh, and you may want to join in on the weekender thread. And join the class of March.
Best to you.
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Old 03-22-2019, 06:16 PM
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Stay strong! I'm at 21 days. I've been there as well. I did the same thing. Had to make sure there was enough so of course I drank it all. It wasn't that long ago. Not having a hangover, extra money, being able to remember the night before and not have to ask my husband if I did anything stupid are all good things to not have. Come up with a mantra. It helps. And be pissed at whatever drink you drank. Welp...that's my advice at 21 days. Keep walking.
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Old 03-22-2019, 06:26 PM
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Welcome, Fineartshooter - we're so glad to have you join us.

I felt all alone until I came to SR. No one understood what I was going through except my friends here. Not having to face getting sober by myself meant everything. I found the strength to quit, & it changed my life for good. You can do it, too.
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Old 03-23-2019, 12:24 PM
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Day 2

Just keeping myself busy and drinking water today!! The real hurdle I have is making past 2 weeks
That’s usually my tipping point in the past
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Old 03-23-2019, 01:06 PM
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Originally Posted by fineartshooter View Post
The real hurdle I have is making past 2 weeks
That’s usually my tipping point in the past
So start planning now on how you are going to get past that hurdle.
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Old 03-23-2019, 04:43 PM
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Welcome fineartshooter

Carls on the money - start planning now before you need the plan. Any ideas?

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Old 03-23-2019, 05:11 PM
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Ya know carl brought up a really good point
Plan

I’m going to think about it
Maybe since my wife isn’t a drinker get her a stick to smack me with
Well maybe that’s not the best plan but I will let you all know what I come up with
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Old 03-23-2019, 05:15 PM
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Seriously though for me I think one of the biggest things I can change is habits
Diet, friends, health

I think I also need to focus on what are my triggers
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Old 03-23-2019, 06:04 PM
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Looks like you've brought memories back that hang about in all of us, fineartshooter.
That is no bad thing, for we all must remember, in order to grow from strength to strength throughout this journey we must travel, there is one other thing we also must remember, and it is vitally important

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Pleasant thoughts are sure to come to your way from all the members who have the honour of reading your post, for I am a new member and found that to be true.

Fight the good fight.
Warm regards.
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Old 03-24-2019, 09:18 AM
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Day 3 is going great. Forgot what are good nights sleep felt like. We walked the dogs early this morning. And then my wife and I went to a couple local parks to just walk together.

We are going on a vacation in a couple of weeks without any kids or extra family it would be really nice to go on vacation that didn’t revolve around drinking. It’s actually a cruise we are going on a few weeks ago I ordered the beverage package. Ironically I opted at that time for the non alcoholic package and this morning I talked with the cruise line. I asked them to please make sure that the in suite mini bar was cleared of all alcohol. They questioned me with that until I told them look I am a alcoholic and I don’t need the temptations. They were very accommodating and assured me it would have bottled water only.

That was the first time I admitted that or professed the to anyone. It felt good

Have a great Sunday
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Old 03-24-2019, 09:29 AM
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I guess what I forgot to add was - Thank you once again for everyone else posts / personal hurdles. I honestly never opened my eyes to see that this problem is huge. And my personal life and personal drinking problems shadows so many others. Its a little more clarifying for me when I read it and realize that's exactly me.
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Old 03-24-2019, 10:11 AM
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Congratulations on day three! I went on a cruise years ago and ran up a $1000 tab for drinks. I regret missing what could have been. The food is usually a big deal and I skipped a lot of meals to hang out in a smoke filled casino drinking. Recently there was a story where a drunken man jumped of one of the top decks cause it sounded fun, he was lucky to live. They banned him and his buddies for life. I don’t understand why we work so hard to get away and then when we get there we go back to our drinking routine.. I only usually remember half of my vacation. So sad, but I am using that is strength.
Hope your Sunday is great and stay strong!
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Old 03-25-2019, 01:48 PM
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Day 4 work was the usual stressful Monday

I’m not gonna lie and say a beer or 12 wouldn’t taste awesome right now but mineral water will have to do

I just have to stay behind the line I drew in the sand
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Old 03-25-2019, 02:02 PM
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Hey there! Today is my day one again as well. I spent many months reading this forum before I actually joined and I love the wisdom and encouragement. Alcohol is taking over my life, I would be healthy, fit, and so full of energy without it, but instead I spend my evenings sipping away and then usually blacks out towards the end, waking up around 3 with anxiety. I'm home with my 2 kids so I drink alone most times. How sad and pathetic. I will embrace spring as a new beginning. I'm looking forward to lots of energy, feeling beautiful, a cleaner more organized home, better quality time with my kids, so many benefits. I look forward to a drink when I get home from my daily work and errands, but I'm instead going to look forward to a better way of living. We got this!!!
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Old 03-25-2019, 02:45 PM
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Originally Posted by fineartshooter View Post
Seriously though for me I think one of the biggest things I can change is habits
Diet, friends, health

I think I also need to focus on what are my triggers
Hey fineart. LOL to the stick idea. I’ve said it before & I’ll say it again, for me a daily exercise routine was critical. It’s a way to see mental & physical improvement on an almost daily basis & it is so incompatible with drinking. It’s something to look forward to each day & your body will be more than willing. Stay strong buddy. I’m rooting for you!
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