Now my sister
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Now my sister
Hi my friends and important people in my dream team,
My spouse is faring much better, sober since April and with it I’ve been sober and non-smoking too! Grateful.
Now my my sister is in difficult times. It seems she needs some support to stop drinking. She is dealing with alcohol related health issues and with having to be around other heavy drinkers.
My spouse, with the wisdom of recovery hindsight, thinks I should drop everything, and visit her tomorrow. My gut says to wait until after she’s had some blood tests etc done before I visit.
Am I in denial about my sister, not wanting to take advice, or being sensible? I know my sister needs help, but I feel like I’m being bullied or guilted into going by my spouse.
Any thoughts would, as ever be read with gratitude and appreciation.
Thank you for reading.
My spouse is faring much better, sober since April and with it I’ve been sober and non-smoking too! Grateful.
Now my my sister is in difficult times. It seems she needs some support to stop drinking. She is dealing with alcohol related health issues and with having to be around other heavy drinkers.
My spouse, with the wisdom of recovery hindsight, thinks I should drop everything, and visit her tomorrow. My gut says to wait until after she’s had some blood tests etc done before I visit.
Am I in denial about my sister, not wanting to take advice, or being sensible? I know my sister needs help, but I feel like I’m being bullied or guilted into going by my spouse.
Any thoughts would, as ever be read with gratitude and appreciation.
Thank you for reading.
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It is my opinion that you should listen to your instincts. Do what feels right for YOU.
As you know, true recovery comes from with-in. You waiting a few days or weeks before visiting your sister isn't going to be the end all/be all of her recovery.
As you know, true recovery comes from with-in. You waiting a few days or weeks before visiting your sister isn't going to be the end all/be all of her recovery.
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Originally Posted by SmallButMighty 
It is my opinion that you should listen to your instincts. Do what feels right for YOU.
As you know, true recovery comes from with-in. You waiting a few days or weeks before visiting your sister isn't going to be the end all/be all of her recovery.
As you know, true recovery comes from with-in. You waiting a few days or weeks before visiting your sister isn't going to be the end all/be all of her recovery.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
has she ASKED you for help?
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Originally Posted by Zukunft
Thanks for asking. An important question. Not in so many words. I think I may ask her if she wants my help, and in what way and take it from there. Otherwise, I’m worrying and no sense in that.
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Originally Posted by Zukunft
Thanks for asking. An important question. Not in so many words. I think I may ask her if she wants my help, and in what way and take it from there. Otherwise, I’m worrying and no sense in that.
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Originally Posted by Zukunft
Thanks for asking. An important question. Not in so many words. I think I may ask her if she wants my help, and in what way and take it from there. Otherwise, I’m worrying and no sense in that.
I think you need to prepare yourself for her not wanting the kind of help you think she needs and as hard as it may be to accept that.
Depending on the results of her medical tests lets hope she makes a healthy decision to help herself and allow others to offer their support.
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