My feelings are mine......
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My feelings are mine......
At a course I am studying at the moment, I heard this poem read out and thought i would share it in here, as it a part of my own journey and might resonate.
My feelings are mine, don't try to jolly me out of them,
Don't tell me how I should feel
Don't tell me how you would feel
Don't do anything to change change them.
I'll change them myself when I feel heard and acknowledged.
My feelings are there for a reason, even if they are not pretty
They are are not 'negative' or 'pointless'.
My feelings are valid and if they scare you,
That's for you to take care of, not me.
---Leanne Chapman
Our feelings are ours and if we express them with words and actions that are respectful to others, we show them that feelings are okay, all of them.
My feelings are mine, don't try to jolly me out of them,
Don't tell me how I should feel
Don't tell me how you would feel
Don't do anything to change change them.
I'll change them myself when I feel heard and acknowledged.
My feelings are there for a reason, even if they are not pretty
They are are not 'negative' or 'pointless'.
My feelings are valid and if they scare you,
That's for you to take care of, not me.
---Leanne Chapman
Our feelings are ours and if we express them with words and actions that are respectful to others, we show them that feelings are okay, all of them.
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Originally Posted by Glenjo99 
Don't tell me how you would feel
I do like when people tell me how they would feel though. First of all it lets me know where they are coming from. If they say "well I would never be in that position in the first place" - ok, well I know where you are coming from.
On the other hand they might share some great way of looking at something. Perhaps they were in a similar situation and handled it in a way I hadn't quite thought of yet, that can be helpful.
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Originally Posted by trailmix
I like it and yes, our feelings are our own and we need to OWN them.
I do like when people tell me how they would feel though. First of all it lets me know where they are coming from. If they say "well I would never be in that position in the first place" - ok, well I know where you are coming from.
On the other hand they might share some great way of looking at something. Perhaps they were in a similar situation and handled it in a way I hadn't quite thought of yet, that can be helpful.
I do like when people tell me how they would feel though. First of all it lets me know where they are coming from. If they say "well I would never be in that position in the first place" - ok, well I know where you are coming from.
On the other hand they might share some great way of looking at something. Perhaps they were in a similar situation and handled it in a way I hadn't quite thought of yet, that can be helpful.
yes! For example:
A friend end of mine helped me realize that certain things my AH did, that I thought were just rude, were downright mean and disrespectful to me.
Knowing how others feel is knowledge, regardless of the outcome of that knowledge
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Originally Posted by Leelee168
That resonates with me, too.
I’ve been through nearly 10 months of people telling me what I should feel or how I should feel because I honestly had no idea what I should feel—if that makes any sense, haha!
I’ve been through nearly 10 months of people telling me what I should feel or how I should feel because I honestly had no idea what I should feel—if that makes any sense, haha!
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