Relapse recovery
RIP Sweet Suki
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: In my sanctuary, my home
Posts: 39,870
Go to a meeting; stay close to SR; read your old posts and remember how miserable you were, and are again today, because you drank. Make a plan for what to do when you are craving. There are plenty of posts here to help you, but you have to be willing to put in the hard work.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2018
Posts: 252
I have a card I carry in my wallet that lists contact names and numbers to reach out to, the very real negative consequences I could face, the possible positive outcomes I want and may well get by not drinking, and has several things listed to do that I can use to pass the time or distract myself when cravings hit. Reach out for help BEFORE you take the drink or buy the drink. An outside perspective often does wonders for talking us drunks down off the ledge.
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,373
I think you'd get a lot of committing to a meeting based recovery method Toni.
There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - here's some links to some of the main players, including but not limited to AA:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
White knuckling the cravings was not enough for me - sometimes I won the battle but most often not...
I needed a plan - and to stay securely sober I think you need a plan too?
D
There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - here's some links to some of the main players, including but not limited to AA:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
White knuckling the cravings was not enough for me - sometimes I won the battle but most often not...
I needed a plan - and to stay securely sober I think you need a plan too?
D
Member
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 8,637
Sometimes, I'd look back on all the times that I'd attempted to stop drinking and failed - and I'd write down all the things I felt awful about from those times. I'd write down the things I'd sacrificed. I'd write down the feelings.....
Then I'd turn that around and write down all the things I want my life to be about, the feelings I wanted to feel, the things I'd prefer to put my time toward, the reasons I'd be honored to be sober.
Maybe spending a little time with these kind of ideas while you're in the thick of your relapse fallout could be helpful.
I watched a movie today called "Don't Worry, he won't get far on foot". That might be a good watch for you as well.
Then I'd turn that around and write down all the things I want my life to be about, the feelings I wanted to feel, the things I'd prefer to put my time toward, the reasons I'd be honored to be sober.
Maybe spending a little time with these kind of ideas while you're in the thick of your relapse fallout could be helpful.
I watched a movie today called "Don't Worry, he won't get far on foot". That might be a good watch for you as well.
Member
Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: Adelaide, Australia
Posts: 28,643
they get worse
as does the shame and guilt-
a spiral down- ever deeper and darker,
logic is well and good but you NEED to remember this when emotions kick in
get daily support, commit yo this
support to you
as does the shame and guilt-
a spiral down- ever deeper and darker,
logic is well and good but you NEED to remember this when emotions kick in
get daily support, commit yo this
support to you
Member
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Washington
Posts: 241
Every relapse for me got worse. Things I swore I wouldn’t do, became the norm, each thing I thought could be my rock bottom just changed and got even lower. Knowing that, I know I can never go back out there, if I do, I don’t know that I will come back. And being sober is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I’m doing everything I can to stay sober, meetings, SR, a sponsor, journaling, gratitude, ect I threw my self in head first to anything recovery. I have a little over 100 days, and I just continue to keep pushing forward.
sober style
Join Date: May 2016
Location: San Antonio
Posts: 2,382
Get active in the monthly SR thread, it'll be January 2019. Post in there every day about how it's going, listen to the other people tell how they're doing, see how it's done every day, how the sober house gets built one brick at a time.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
