Katie1984

I have a while heap of excuses that are genuine but they don't matter, I gave in
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​So here we go again, only this time I have had sleep.

Dee74

Hi Katie
Yeah it can be hard when we've used alcohol for so many different reasons.

Most of us are bound to find an excuse, reason or a feeling or situation bad enough to drink again.

That why it's so important to use the support here - let us help you through the difficult time without you having to resort to drinking.

Once you see that you can get through things - AND stay sober - it is really is a gamechanger

Don't think of this as failing tho - it's simply a learning experience.
You can do this

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wildflower70

Katie,

I failed so many times that I lost count. Forgive yourself for what you perceive as a failure, it can be a learning experience, one that helps you to stay away from the drink. You can do this, maybe write down the way you feel now, make a list of why booze is wrecking your life.....and then read it daily. This helped me, in addition to posting here daily.

Love yourself unconditionally, your worth it.

Rd2quit

Katie, I know how important it is for you to not drink because of the drugs you are required to take.

next time post to the forum before you drink, it really can help keep you from deciding to take that first drink.

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I hope we can help you get sober for good.

Dee74

How are you doing Katie?

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Ghostlight1

Day 1.5 is good.
I know it took me many tries to finally stop for good.
We're with you. Try posting before you drink. I know that helped me.
If it were easy, there would be no alcoholics.
What's wonderful, is we get the chance to try again.
Thinking of you, and wishing you the best in sobriety.

Fearlessat50

Hi Katie, I agree with what others here have said. Try journaling your thoughts and triggers and a plan for what you can do differently. Know that it’s difficult in the beginning and be ok with sitting with the discomfort. It will pass. Stay close to SR. Hugs

Katie1984

Thanks everyone. I was so defeatist on myself there I vanished for a bit but I forgot to mention something quite strange.
despite drinking, I didn't ENJOY it. I used to enjoy it a lot, I was drinking for the sake of it and that's really stupid.
I've had the option yesterday to have a bottle of wine, I even went and bought one, but it's still there on the side because why do something you don't enjoy right?

Kaily

Best to throw the wine away Katie. You don't want it now but at some point you will and it will be there waiting for you unless you get rid of it before the craving comes.
Never give up trying.

Katie1984

Figured that one
I gave it to some homeless guy. Probably not the best thing to do, but I was brought up not to waste so...:/
Anyway it's gone.
I have a birthday/christmas party on Wednesday. That's gonna be tough. Any advice?

Ghostlight1

Glad you got rid of the wine. Great move

What I do at parties and bars, is get a seven up with lemon. It looks like a drink. I wrap a napkin on the bottom, just like you'd do with a drink.
If someone asks me if I want another, I decline or say 'I'm getting pretty buzzed maybe I'll just have a seven up'.
Sneaky, I know, but it works for me.
Best to you.

Dee74

If you're worried about a party do you really need to go Katie?

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I also wonder if it's really necessary for you to go to the party. If you must go, practice saying "no thanks", and mean it.

Katie1984

Well party is a bit strong, it's a meal out with my sister and kids because it's a birthday. So I don't HAVE to but I will still go.
Just have to say no alcohol because I have work at 4am or some excuse
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Fearlessat50

I was wondering if you really need to go too. I passed up a lot of parties early on. I would just say I’m sick or if it was work, I had too much work to do or a meeting.

If you go, have a plan ahead of time about what you will drink as a replacement and what will you say if your not drinking will come up. For a while, my drink was a seven up or sprite with lemon or sometimes I’d order a virgin Mojito. Love those still! I often just stick to water these days. As far as what to say, I had all kinds of excuses in the beginning. I’m training, I have to get up early for travel, I’m on antibiotics, etc , etc. do whatever you feel comfortable with. If it’s your sister, maybe tell her the truth? I always envy people who are completely honest about their alcoholism.

You can do it Katie!

D122y

Katie,

I was unable to quit drinking until I had a physical break down that literally took me to my knees in tears.

I know from experience here that some folks can find a way to start drinking again even after nearly dieing from drinking.

The main thing is you want to quit.

Education saved me.

I routinely remind myself how destroyed I was from booze. I then go out and attack life w as much vigor as I can muster.

Everyday is a new day. A day to change for the better.

I suffer when it is time to suffer and come out stronger. I never miss a party. I love seeing drunk people. They usually look like hell, slurring their words, and acting spontaneously selfish and regretful.

I go to the parties. Seeing drunks makes me not miss drinking.

Thanks.

Soberwolf

Katie avoid anything with alcohol darling making excuses is making excuses I hear this all the time and I truly believe it's the subconscious alcoholism driving the decision here

Look up sober muscles and how you build them all the best x