W.a.i.t.
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W.a.i.t.
W.A.I.T. Why Am I Talking
Another quote on this subject:
"Silence is a greatly underestimated source of power. In silence, we can hear not only what is being said, but also what is not being said. In silence, it can be easier to reach the truth."
Am I talking for approval and to be overly helpful? (Rescuer)
Am I talking to control and take charge of the situation? (Persecutor)
Am I talking to complain and whine about all I don’t like? (Victim)
Many of our behaviors are habitual and probably none more so than talking. Here are a few reflective questions to ask yourself before you leap into a conversation: What is my intention behind what I am about to say?
Is there a question I could ask that would help me better understand what the other person is saying and perceiving?
How might I simply listen and let go of my urge to talk in this moment? If we all did a little more W.A.I.T.ing and a little less talking, we believe this world would be a more empowering and co-creative place.
Am I talking to control and take charge of the situation? (Persecutor)
Am I talking to complain and whine about all I don’t like? (Victim)
Many of our behaviors are habitual and probably none more so than talking. Here are a few reflective questions to ask yourself before you leap into a conversation: What is my intention behind what I am about to say?
Is there a question I could ask that would help me better understand what the other person is saying and perceiving?
How might I simply listen and let go of my urge to talk in this moment? If we all did a little more W.A.I.T.ing and a little less talking, we believe this world would be a more empowering and co-creative place.
"Silence is a greatly underestimated source of power. In silence, we can hear not only what is being said, but also what is not being said. In silence, it can be easier to reach the truth."
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I learned W.A.I.T. at Al-anon meetings and found the info above online.
I'm applying this in many ways this week. Talking less, letting silence be comfortable, easy and welcomed. It's been great timing for this to come up. Praying, meditating, waiting for guidance.
Finding my voice in new ways and continually gaining confidence.
I'm applying this in many ways this week. Talking less, letting silence be comfortable, easy and welcomed. It's been great timing for this to come up. Praying, meditating, waiting for guidance.
Finding my voice in new ways and continually gaining confidence.
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Originally Posted by Awal 
It makes a lot of sense. I often open my mouth before putting my brain in gear! 
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Originally Posted by LovePeaceSushi
(raising hand) Me, too, sister!!!!! There is a reason God (Higher Power) puts both teeth AND lips in front of our tongue! Trying to abide, but it's going to take discipline.
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Originally Posted by Mango212
Talking less, letting silence be comfortable, easy and welcomed. It's been great timing for this to come up. Praying, meditating, waiting for guidance.
Finding my voice in new ways and continually gaining confidence.
Finding my voice in new ways and continually gaining confidence.
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