Starting again
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Starting again
Well i made it till last thursday 10 days, then drank again. I was staying at my parents as they cant go out since my dads stroke, so we got takeout and opened a bottle of wine. I thought it was kinder to have a drink with them as it made more of a night for then ??!! I dont know stupid really, anyway it was fine just had 2 drinks which led on to me rationalizing a drink on friday Saturday and sunday would be fine too. I didnt go overboard but still 3/4 - a bottle each time. I really want to stop, please any advice is welcome and needed. I want to stop for good but think if i set goal till end of year for now not quite so daunting as forever, then my new year resolution will be not drink next year. I feel so pathetic that i keep drinking.
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Hey TB - good to hear from you 
I dunno about you but I really had to pick a team.
I had to put myself and my well being above everything and everyone else - even my family my friends and my parents
I couldn't pick and choose my occasions to drink because my relationship with alcohol was toxic - I may not have lost control every time I drank, but every time I lost control, I was drinking.
Not drinking removes that outcome as an option.
If it makes it easier to think of it as a project til the end of the year, go for it - but there's no going back to drinking - not if you want real lasting change
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I dunno about you but I really had to pick a team.
I had to put myself and my well being above everything and everyone else - even my family my friends and my parents
I couldn't pick and choose my occasions to drink because my relationship with alcohol was toxic - I may not have lost control every time I drank, but every time I lost control, I was drinking.
Not drinking removes that outcome as an option.
If it makes it easier to think of it as a project til the end of the year, go for it - but there's no going back to drinking - not if you want real lasting change
D
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Join Date: May 2017
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Hi Tinker, I could have written that post myself. Have 1or 2 tonight and feel fine the next day so have a couple more and leads to full on binge. At my worst I was starting at 11am saying I’d have a few early ones and I’ll be in bed by 8 . What a joke! I’d be throwing up by 11.. if I’ve learned anything in the last while . I take everything in bite size pieces. Hour by hour and one task at a time. I can’t process “forever “so just do today. Keep busy and get organized. I’m back on day 2 now so we’re starting off together! Sending good wishes and hope you can get your. Plan together!
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Tinker - in the beginning I would often focus on just getting through the day sober/clean. I did my best to avoid projecting into "forever". It seems so simple that it couldn't really make a difference, but it did for me. It took a lot of the pressure off to break it down into a day at a time. After a while I got comfortable with the idea of not ever drinking/using again. It isn't a struggle to survive the day any more.
Life still has its ups and downs, but drinking/using don't pop up as solutions in my mind any more. They used to be the only solutions I could see.
Take care. Things get better.
Life still has its ups and downs, but drinking/using don't pop up as solutions in my mind any more. They used to be the only solutions I could see.
Take care. Things get better.
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