RABF doing well
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Join Date: Mar 2018
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RABF doing well
Just posting an update to stay connected. I got back together w my ABF about a month ago. He has about 100 days - going with him to receive his 90 day coin this week. We do not live together but seeing each other a few times per week. It is going well. We’re going to couples counseling and he’s going individually and still attending meetings daily. He started speaking at commitments and is very engaged in his network. I never would have guessed in a million years that he’d be as committed to this as he is. Of course I know it’s a really long road and this is just the beginnng. Just grateful that it’s going well.
Life is good
Join Date: Apr 2018
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Cautiously optimistic is a good place to be.
I was told several times, "if you want to know how an alcoholic is doing, watch their actions when you tell them no." Wow, was that true for me!
Quote from a previous thread:
His pushing is just so ... effective I guess.
A reply to that:
Effective as in bullying you and using your own fear of confrontation against you? That’s not love – that’s control and he is doing and saying whatever he has to right now to keep control over you and this relationship.
Have fun. Enjoy each day. Keep your intentions clear, within yourself.
I was told several times, "if you want to know how an alcoholic is doing, watch their actions when you tell them no." Wow, was that true for me!
Quote from a previous thread:
His pushing is just so ... effective I guess.
A reply to that:
Effective as in bullying you and using your own fear of confrontation against you? That’s not love – that’s control and he is doing and saying whatever he has to right now to keep control over you and this relationship.
Have fun. Enjoy each day. Keep your intentions clear, within yourself.
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