I am really afraid I will never overcome this.
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I am really afraid I will never overcome this.
I can't make it past 1 day sober. AA doesn't work for me. The resources and support outside of AA are minimal or nonexistent.
Close to giving up completely.
Close to giving up completely.
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Time,
After being on SR for over 3 years, I have seen a few addicts that feel they just can't stop.
Most have hope.
At least you are not incarcerated or extremely physically ill or disabled. Non of us, not even non drinkers, have it together all the way.
There are some extremely bright folks on sr that may offer you a solution to get into a sober routine to change your trajectory.
Thanks.
After being on SR for over 3 years, I have seen a few addicts that feel they just can't stop.
Most have hope.
At least you are not incarcerated or extremely physically ill or disabled. Non of us, not even non drinkers, have it together all the way.
There are some extremely bright folks on sr that may offer you a solution to get into a sober routine to change your trajectory.
Thanks.
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What are your longest sober stints as of late? And when you have been able to stay sober, what kinds of things have you tried to do on a day to day basis in order to keep yourself busy?
I know it isn't easy, and I can very much relate to what you're feeling because I also haven't found what I've needed at AA. But there are other perspectives worth considering. In addition to the damage you are doing to your body and to your mind, you are affecting the people around you, whether you see it or not. Because whether you are an alcoholic who gets drunk and causes trouble (like me, unfortunately) or you keep to yourself, you are still failing to be the best version of yourself, the one that can help lift others up or perhaps teach them, give them inspiration.
Have you considered something like therapy a couple times a week? Perhaps talking through general life issues, the underlying causes of your drinking, will help you to figure out why you feel the need to keep it up. In addition to that, developing new skills and hobbies so that you can put yourself into better, more fulfilling positions in life.
It will be a tough road, but you know it is worth it. Keep it up. Try again.
I know it isn't easy, and I can very much relate to what you're feeling because I also haven't found what I've needed at AA. But there are other perspectives worth considering. In addition to the damage you are doing to your body and to your mind, you are affecting the people around you, whether you see it or not. Because whether you are an alcoholic who gets drunk and causes trouble (like me, unfortunately) or you keep to yourself, you are still failing to be the best version of yourself, the one that can help lift others up or perhaps teach them, give them inspiration.
Have you considered something like therapy a couple times a week? Perhaps talking through general life issues, the underlying causes of your drinking, will help you to figure out why you feel the need to keep it up. In addition to that, developing new skills and hobbies so that you can put yourself into better, more fulfilling positions in life.
It will be a tough road, but you know it is worth it. Keep it up. Try again.
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Originally Posted by Time2Focus 
I can't make it past 1 day sober. AA doesn't work for me. The resources and support outside of AA are minimal or nonexistent.
Close to giving up completely.
Close to giving up completely.
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Originally Posted by TeeJayVerm
I'm right there with you. Personally speaking, this forum is superior to any AA meeting I have attended to date. There are people here from multiple countries and multiple walks of life. There are also people in this forum throughout the alcoholism spectrum. I can relate much better to the stories here than the ones I have heard in AA meetings.
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welcome back Time2Focus 
I dunno - I refuse to believe anyone is doomed to drink if they son;t want to.
When I pared my problem down the real sticking point was the only tool I had or dealing with life was a bottle.
I got myself really involved with the community here - posting daily and more than daily, and not leaving when I felt good.
If SR's the only thing you can commit to, commit to it fully. Use the support - come here before you drink.
If you want change make changes, yeah?
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I dunno - I refuse to believe anyone is doomed to drink if they son;t want to.
When I pared my problem down the real sticking point was the only tool I had or dealing with life was a bottle.
I got myself really involved with the community here - posting daily and more than daily, and not leaving when I felt good.
If SR's the only thing you can commit to, commit to it fully. Use the support - come here before you drink.
If you want change make changes, yeah?
D
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Originally Posted by Time2Focus
Has it helped you gain substantial clean time?
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Combine your recovery program with a program of practicing gratitude every day. That's the best way I know to make my sobriety stronger.
The other thing is that you still drink, therefore must want to drink more than you want to be sober. You've got to turn that around and want to be sober more than you want to drink.
That's the best way I know to make my sobriety stronger. The other thing is that you still drink, therefore must want to drink more than you want to be sober. You've got to turn that around and want to be sober more than you want to drink.
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Time2Focus, I can certainly relate. I am on Day 7 of my latest attempt at sobriety. I first sought help 7 years ago when I checked into rehab. Struggled to stay sober since. Besides rehab I have used AA/sponsor,
this forum, therapy, books etc. I am scared that I may never 'get it'.
I look at my attempts to get sober as a trial and error process. I keep trying. As long as you don't give up and resign yourself to being a drunk forever, you have a chance.
this forum, therapy, books etc. I am scared that I may never 'get it'.
I look at my attempts to get sober as a trial and error process. I keep trying. As long as you don't give up and resign yourself to being a drunk forever, you have a chance.
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Originally Posted by orderfororder
What are your longest sober stints as of late? And when you have been able to stay sober, what kinds of things have you tried to do on a day to day basis in order to keep yourself busy?
I know it isn't easy, and I can very much relate to what you're feeling because I also haven't found what I've needed at AA. But there are other perspectives worth considering. In addition to the damage you are doing to your body and to your mind, you are affecting the people around you, whether you see it or not. Because whether you are an alcoholic who gets drunk and causes trouble (like me, unfortunately) or you keep to yourself, you are still failing to be the best version of yourself, the one that can help lift others up or perhaps teach them, give them inspiration.
Have you considered something like therapy a couple times a week? Perhaps talking through general life issues, the underlying causes of your drinking, will help you to figure out why you feel the need to keep it up. In addition to that, developing new skills and hobbies so that you can put yourself into better, more fulfilling positions in life.
It will be a tough road, but you know it is worth it. Keep it up. Try again.
I know it isn't easy, and I can very much relate to what you're feeling because I also haven't found what I've needed at AA. But there are other perspectives worth considering. In addition to the damage you are doing to your body and to your mind, you are affecting the people around you, whether you see it or not. Because whether you are an alcoholic who gets drunk and causes trouble (like me, unfortunately) or you keep to yourself, you are still failing to be the best version of yourself, the one that can help lift others up or perhaps teach them, give them inspiration.
Have you considered something like therapy a couple times a week? Perhaps talking through general life issues, the underlying causes of your drinking, will help you to figure out why you feel the need to keep it up. In addition to that, developing new skills and hobbies so that you can put yourself into better, more fulfilling positions in life.
It will be a tough road, but you know it is worth it. Keep it up. Try again.
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These doubts, these negative thoughts your brain is throwing up are not to be trusted. Don't take them at face value. You're in control of whether you drink or not, the real you. That objective fact is something to count on and build on.
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I just suck at staying committed to anything.
And that might be the foundation for you. Committing to not drinking, no matter what. Committing to a program, whatever that program is. Committing to engage in activities that support a healthy body and mind.
Acceptance that I cannot drink, and commitment to not drinking.
Have you thought about why you cannot commit? The hard truth?
And that might be the foundation for you. Committing to not drinking, no matter what. Committing to a program, whatever that program is. Committing to engage in activities that support a healthy body and mind.
Acceptance that I cannot drink, and commitment to not drinking.
Have you thought about why you cannot commit? The hard truth?
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Originally Posted by Frickaflip233
I just suck at staying committed to anything.
And that might be the foundation for you. Committing to not drinking, no matter what. Committing to a program, whatever that program is. Committing to engage in activities that support a healthy body and mind.
Acceptance that I cannot drink, and commitment to not drinking.
Have you thought about why you cannot commit? The hard truth?
And that might be the foundation for you. Committing to not drinking, no matter what. Committing to a program, whatever that program is. Committing to engage in activities that support a healthy body and mind.
Acceptance that I cannot drink, and commitment to not drinking.
Have you thought about why you cannot commit? The hard truth?
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