allie44

What was meant to be a 30 day test for myself has now turned into 143 days and still not giving up!

However my main reason for quitting was my skin problem and even after quitting my so called Rocecea was still present soooo skin clinic treatment...£300 later and seeing results. Guess the money I’ve saved from not buying wine has paid for that!!

My husbands drinking btw is still bad and I’m now so exhausted listening to him being nasty to me.

I’ve been unwell too so I went to the doctor. Blood tests were taken and have come back fine so the doctor has put it down to stress from my husband and my job!

I really feel in limbo with my personal life. Have no family close by and no friends to visit. Even if I did my husband would freak out!

Weird how I try SO damn hard to be calm and happy but get treated like crap by my boss and husband!!

Dee74

Hi Allie - congrats on your progress

While it may not be exactly the same thing, you'll find friendship understanding and support here 24/7

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yinzer

Good job taking care of yourself! Can you get some counseling to help you deal with the husband? Sounds like he is a bit controlling.

Atlast9999

Hi Allie,

Congrats on 143 days!! That’s fabulous!

My husband drinks too. When he gets drunk, he can be nasty, condescending, hurtful, etc. It’s difficult to navigate my own sobriety and to encounter his AV (addictive voice) as well as my own.

Reading the forums has been extremely helpful, both the newcomers and the friends and family forums.

least

Congrats on almost five months sober! Keep going, it gets better.

Fearlessat50

Hi Allie, congrats! My skin issues was one of the reasons I quit drinking too. Before I stopped, I had some laser treatments and it really helped. But the moment I went back to drinking, even small amounts, my skin issues flared up again. There were other reasons why I stopped for good also. Life is so much better on the sober side and my skin has really cleared up. I am not having issues with my husband or boss at the moment, but have been through trying times in the past. I do have a son with mental issues and that can be challenging. I didn’t have much outside support either - most of my friends drink. But I am learning to still be social without the booze even with folks who drink. I have also picked up new hobbies over the last year like art, gardening and cooking. I am actually enjoying solitude more. when I feel alone, I often come here and it is so helpful. Hope to see you around.

Lorax1981

Good job! Sounds like you’re not getting treated with the respect and love you deserve. Maybe time to start putting your feelers out for a change. Give your husband your 15 days notice and tell your boss to get out? Or is it the other way around:-) They say to not make radical changes in early sobriety but I don’t think that goes for staying in unhealthy relationships and the like. But we do tend to be a bit all-over-the-place for the first while, I sure was!

allie44

My husbands ways have always been violent, I guess now I don’t drink I can see a clearer picture. Just feel like curling into a ball in a dark room and crying my eyes out!

Lorax1981

I’m sorry Allie. That just ain’t right. Newly sober or not, physical abuse is not okay. If he’s turning his violence on you, then you’ve gotta do something. Ultimatum, counseling, walking papers, something. Cuz you certainly don’t deserve that, nobody does.

Dee74

I don't think anyone should have to put up with violence Alie

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-violence-and-abuse
https://www.refuge.org.uk/our-work/f...nce-the-facts/

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