Britth

Hi all,

I’ll be 3 weeks sober tmr but I’m going home to visit my parents. They know about my drinking but not the full extent of it. My dad and I bond over dinner and drinks every time I go home and I’m worried it will trigger me if I go.

“it is not surprising that our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people. The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker”

I’m only 23 so of course I hope to be able to drink normally again someday but I really need some input from my fellow alcoholics!

DreamCatcher17

HI!

In all of my readings throughout this board, once an alcoholic always an alcoholic and "normal" drinking is off the table.

I was not able to put my self in "triggering" situations for a long time, and to this day (11 months) I rather not put myself in a place that may have a negative impact on my life or sobriety as my sobriety comes before all so I can give my all in everything I do.

If you do go a couple things:
1. Can you be honest and tell them you are not drinking as it has a negative effect on you?
2. If you can't be honest can you say you're taking a medication and you can't drink on it?
3. Can you have a plan to go somewhere else if the drink is too tempting?

Blessings,
DC

aasharon90

You have a choice, voice and huge responsibility
to yourself to remain sober and put recovery as
top priority if you want to achieve success.

Total abstinence and incorporating a
program of recovery on a daily bases
or on a continuous bases is what has
kept me sober for some 28yrs. Once
I took my last drink of poison and got
into recovery and learned a program
of recovery taught to me, I began to
apply it continuously to this day to
achieve many of lifes wonderful,
amazing gifts.

This is a journey in life I chose for myself
and would never trade it for a single sip
of alcohol that didn't work for me back
when and still doesn't work for many today.

I know that without a doubt that I am
an alcoholic in recovery and that alcohol
will never work for me today, tomorrow
or anytime. And I accept that fact. Period.

As for your parents. I have them too. For
me, I had to do what was and is best for my
own recovery and life and distancing myself
from them was a must. Placing myself in
the mist of a toxic environment would not
be healthy for me.

If they dont understand my decisions
I make for myself then, that certainly
isn't my problem.

Today, im responsible for doing whatever
I need to do to remain sober and live a healthy,
happy honest way of life.

Of course this how it continues to work
for me. Just one of many many folks who live
a sober, clean life on a continuous bases.

Take care of you and your recovery life.

Anna

If you are an alcoholic, you will not be able to drink normally, ever. I actually found it easier to stay sober when I decided that drinking was no longer an option, ever. I found that my mind began to search for healthier ways to manage and deal with life.

I strongly suggest that you don't put yourself in vulnerable situations at this time. Your recovery needs to come first.

Dee74

I had that ritual with my dad too - it was not possible for me to just have those couple of drinks and stop.

I stopped drinking with my dad - not sure he understands why even now, but he accepts it

D