role models fall, too
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role models fall, too
A friend of mine in recovery used to always be there.... daily AA, a rock of sobriety, mentoring and sponsoring others, chairing meetings, doing the next right thing, on track.
Some things shifted in his life, his wife decided she wanted a divorce, he had to move out, he was living in his vehicle for a while, then got himself an apartment.... stayed sober.....
Then one day, seemingly out of the blue, he just decided to drink.
Been seeing him lately, bleary-eyed, puffy-faced, openly talking about being "off the wagon".
He's not at meetings anymore....
He's no longer a role model to those in the rooms....
He's not interested in help...
He's not returning text messages....
I hope he makes it back.
The work of sobriety doesn't 'do' itself.....
And even after many years of sobriety - just one choice can change it all.
Some things shifted in his life, his wife decided she wanted a divorce, he had to move out, he was living in his vehicle for a while, then got himself an apartment.... stayed sober.....
Then one day, seemingly out of the blue, he just decided to drink.
Been seeing him lately, bleary-eyed, puffy-faced, openly talking about being "off the wagon".
He's not at meetings anymore....
He's no longer a role model to those in the rooms....
He's not interested in help...
He's not returning text messages....
I hope he makes it back.
The work of sobriety doesn't 'do' itself.....
And even after many years of sobriety - just one choice can change it all.
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl 
A friend of mine in recovery used to always be there.... daily AA, a rock of sobriety, mentoring and sponsoring others, chairing meetings, doing the next right thing, on track.
reminds me of my sponsor who decided to divorce himself from aa and become a sober horse thief
once an amazing example of successful recovery
hes a mess of a person now - damn im so judgemental!
we pray for him
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I'm so sorry about your friend. Stories like this always scare me, I have 2 years and almost 8 months sober, and have no desire to ever drink again, but I stay vigilant for this very reason. I hope he finds his way back.
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl
I just hope he makes it back to the sober path...
Sad to see. And he’s almost bragging about it....
Sad to see. And he’s almost bragging about it....
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yeah.... I saw him the other day and he was telling me "I'm just gonna go get F***ed up!!!!" big smile on his face.....
Asked him if he thought that was likely to end well and the response was "WHO CARES!?"
Saw him another day looking red-faced, bleary-eyed, anxious, unwilling to make eye contact.....
Then another time when I asked "how's it going" and he said "GREAT!! Hittin' it hard and drowning my sorrows!".
Doesn't strike me as likely to wind up back at the tables until something turns ugly....
Asked him if he thought that was likely to end well and the response was "WHO CARES!?"
Saw him another day looking red-faced, bleary-eyed, anxious, unwilling to make eye contact.....
Then another time when I asked "how's it going" and he said "GREAT!! Hittin' it hard and drowning my sorrows!".
Doesn't strike me as likely to wind up back at the tables until something turns ugly....
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl
yeah.... I saw him the other day and he was telling me "I'm just gonna go get F***ed up!!!!" big smile on his face.....
Asked him if he thought that was likely to end well and the response was "WHO CARES!?"
Saw him another day looking red-faced, bleary-eyed, anxious, unwilling to make eye contact.....
Then another time when I asked "how's it going" and he said "GREAT!! Hittin' it hard and drowning my sorrows!".
Doesn't strike me as likely to wind up back at the tables until something turns ugly....
Asked him if he thought that was likely to end well and the response was "WHO CARES!?"
Saw him another day looking red-faced, bleary-eyed, anxious, unwilling to make eye contact.....
Then another time when I asked "how's it going" and he said "GREAT!! Hittin' it hard and drowning my sorrows!".
Doesn't strike me as likely to wind up back at the tables until something turns ugly....
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