T2angel

Me and my wife are addicted to meth and instead of hurting her any more and to give her a better chance at recovery I am trying to get her to leave me. This would devastate me no doubt but I care for her well being more than my own. Am I right by trying to get her to leave me.

BlueMegaFool

The best thing you can do for her well being is to get and stay clean.

Dee74

hi and welcome T2Angel

why not try and get clean instead?

Lose the addiction, not your marriage

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T2angel

I am trying to get clean with her but my attitude and anger is so hard to control I lash out and say very hurtful things nd I see her doing things to try and help me knowing it's hindering her even mor

Dee74

sounds like you need more support so I'm glad you've found us

Have you considered things like NA at all?
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T2angel

no I am the type that likes to do stuff on my own and also worried about my business getting out to people who know me

Berrybean

Sounds like you're giving your pride and / or your addiction more importance than your wife. I suspect that you're kidding yourself that her best interests are at heart. How you gonna get her to leave you? Treat her so bad that she has no option? Jeez. You wanna split up so you can keep using what you like and when you like at least take responsibility for it and don't try and make yourself out to be a loving hero.

I'm guessing you have no idea who attends NA in your area and no reason to suspect that your anonymity would be threatened. You're much more likely to ruin your reputation by continuing to use I reckon.

Why not at least give proper recovery a shot before writing off your marriage?

BB

biminiblue

I agree with Berrybean.

If you want to split up so you can keep using, at least be honest and tell her that instead of being cruel and mean. That will just eat at you in the future.

I think if you got sober all this could still work out.

How about talking to your doctor? There are lots of programs and rehabs.

Anna

The best thing you can do is to get sober and be the person you want to be.

doggonecarl

I quit meth without NA or any kind of formal recovery problem. Which means the meth use stopped, but not the things that drove me to addiction in the first place. I continued to get high for another 6 years on anything else I could score. And drank to the point of alcoholism.

My point? It's great if you can quit meth, but better if you address the addiction problem at its root.