Darren3737

Allo . Drinks been a problem on and off for years with me . But the amount of lies I say when drunk is unreal and very dangerous. I have a nice life o work hard . I'm a del driver around the UK. Ex railway worker .I have always worked . But alot of hard times in my past though drink and alot of people hurt. But along way from that I met and new lady who is my savoir and believes in me . .. I haven't had a real drink for a while and while family circumstances have not been great 2 weeks ago I got mashed so drunk I ruined the neighbours bbq and showed my wife up . Lies and paranoia come as a defence and think my past is going to haunt me . And we have been away for a week this week I thought I would have a drink and I have been so nasty to my wife's friend and had to come home. What's is worse it been the same week my wife's grandma died in our house as we brought her here to get better. I was also not nice in front of my son . Step daughter and to the lady I was horrible too her children there aswell . And another freind I feel real bad and know it's no excuse but it's alchol . And I want to just stop . Same with smoking and my high addiction to sex . And treating my Mrs so bad .

Dee74

Welcome Darren
I moved your post to this forum so you'd get some response

sounds like some pretty good reasons for quitting drinking there - any ideas on how you might do that?

D

least

Sounds like drinking isn't doing you any good. Might be a good idea to stop drinking.

Ladysadie

Sounding like you are trying to blow up your life? Maybe get some help to understand what lies beneath all the pain you are dealing with. There are many good methods of therapy that can cut through surface issues. Keep reading the various threads and recovery stories, get sober, sounds like you have a lot of good in your life worth working for! Best wishes for you Darren.

Darren3737

Well I do believe I can just stop but more like when others around me on nights in a nights out will be hard to do. As I like social events and drink will be around . So that's where I need to think about this more and can't just stop going out

Anna

Welcome, and I hope you decide to stop drinking. It sounds like alcohol is causing a lot of problems in your life. Are you ready to live a sober life?

Darren3737

Yes

doggonecarl

I had a lot of attempts at quitting, but failed to make the changes in my life that would support the decision to quit. By that I mean I kept the same habits, did the same things, hung out with the same people, just tried not to drink.

I failed.

To succeed at sobriety, I had to change a lot of things in my life. If alcohol wasn't going to be in my life, I had no business doing things that had alcohol at the center of things. That meant saying no to a lot of invites. But I don't regret it, and now that I've been sober a while, don't even miss it.

You will have to decide how important being sober is, and how important nights out and social events are to you. I'm not saying you have to be a hermit for the rest of your life, but the damage that alcohol is doing to your life and family, it seems like a no brainer. Quit and avoid temptation until you've acquired some sober time.

Buckley3

Great reason. The habits you describe - the patterns - you'll find plenty around here who can relate. You'll also find plenty of us that don't miss it at ALL.

You can stop. I'd say just sober up - detox for a bit - and see what other stuff starts to auto-fix. Kinda hard to deal with everything at once. Many find that many issues clear up to some degree after they've finally just broken the vicious cycle of alcoholism they are mired in.

Good luck, stick around. You aren't alone.

B