Here we go again
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Here we go again
Please don’t laugh, but here’s day one again. I haven’t been able to really string anything substantial together in the year I’ve been drinking. What am I going to do differently? I’m actually going to try this time, and talk to god a bit more. It’s easy right? Just don’t go to the liquor store.
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SWB - Yes, actually trying is good. 
I had many half-hearted attempts. We know what needs to be done, but sometimes it takes a while to really take it seriously. Congratulations on your Day 1 - and for not giving up on a better life.
I had many half-hearted attempts. We know what needs to be done, but sometimes it takes a while to really take it seriously. Congratulations on your Day 1 - and for not giving up on a better life.
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Hi SWB. Nobody here is laughing at you. Most of us have had enough day ones for multiple lifetimes. I'm personally on day 3 for about the millionth time. It is very unfortunate because I had a solid stretch going and I was working at it. Then I started to get lazy. I stopped posting and reading here. I stopped working on my recovery plan. It still took a couple more weeks before I made a conscious decision to drink. What a huge mistake. Two days worth of binging and I am as sick as I have ever been. The worst part is that I got zero enjoyment from drinking. I started feeling sick within the first two drinks.
This time I have committed to read and post here every day for 90 days. I will also work on my recovery plan every day for 90 days. These are attainable goals at the conclusion of which I will have new goals. Keep at it. It is not easy, but most things worth having take work.
This time I have committed to read and post here every day for 90 days. I will also work on my recovery plan every day for 90 days. These are attainable goals at the conclusion of which I will have new goals. Keep at it. It is not easy, but most things worth having take work.
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Originally Posted by SWB 
Please don’t laugh, but here’s day one again. I haven’t been able to really string anything substantial together in the year I’ve been drinking. What am I going to do differently? I’m actually going to try this time, and talk to god a bit more. It’s easy right? Just don’t go to the liquor store.
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Originally Posted by Chase01
Hi SWB. Nobody here is laughing at you. Most of us have had enough day ones for multiple lifetimes. I'm personally on day 3 for about the millionth time. It is very unfortunate because I had a solid stretch going and I was working at it. Then I started to get lazy. I stopped posting and reading here. I stopped working on my recovery plan. It still took a couple more weeks before I made a conscious decision to drink. What a huge mistake. Two days worth of binging and I am as sick as I have ever been. The worst part is that I got zero enjoyment from drinking. I started feeling sick within the first two drinks.
This time I have committed to read and post here every day for 90 days. I will also work on my recovery plan every day for 90 days. These are attainable goals at the conclusion of which I will have new goals. Keep at it. It is not easy, but most things worth having take work.
This time I have committed to read and post here every day for 90 days. I will also work on my recovery plan every day for 90 days. These are attainable goals at the conclusion of which I will have new goals. Keep at it. It is not easy, but most things worth having take work.
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Ha! I wish I had a nickle for all the times I quit and started! AA worked for me, and you will find other like-minded people. Where I live there are around 50 meetings a day to choose from. I've been at it a long time, and have made some great relationships. It's hard to do it alone, so consider checking out AA and other resources.
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Hey, SWB. I doubt that anyone is laughing. I have been through many, many, many day ones and know there is nothing amusing about it--it is deadly serious.
I hope you make a strong plan of recovery and stick around here with the good people of SR. This place has been a god-send for me in getting and staying sober.
Wishing you all the best.
I hope you make a strong plan of recovery and stick around here with the good people of SR. This place has been a god-send for me in getting and staying sober.
Wishing you all the best.
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I doubt there's any laughing. Prolly just a lot of nodding as in "yep, been there". Part of recovery is relapsing. It's a daily battle. Sometimes we're too weak to fight. It only takes a single weak moment. The AV is always waiting. It never starves to death - no matter how long we go without feeding it. It's hard wired.
The only way to fail is to stop trying. Stop fighting. Put the AV back into it's place and move forward. It likes it when we feel bad about ourselves. We're pushovers. Easily manipulated by it's sweet promises to make us feel so much better so quickly. Punch the f***er right in the throat for taking advantage of you in your weakened state and go right on with your bad-ass self. A little older, a little wiser and a little stronger. You got this
The only way to fail is to stop trying. Stop fighting. Put the AV back into it's place and move forward. It likes it when we feel bad about ourselves. We're pushovers. Easily manipulated by it's sweet promises to make us feel so much better so quickly. Punch the f***er right in the throat for taking advantage of you in your weakened state and go right on with your bad-ass self. A little older, a little wiser and a little stronger. You got this
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Originally Posted by SWB
Please don’t laugh, but here’s day one again. I haven’t been able to really string anything substantial together in the year I’ve been drinking. What am I going to do differently? I’m actually going to try this time, and talk to god a bit more. It’s easy right? Just don’t go to the liquor store.
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Hey SWB, I used this as a guide to start my plan
store.samhsa.gov/shin/content/SMA-3720/SMA-3720.pdf
It lays out many ideas and some framework. The thing about recovery plans is they are different for everyone. For me it is heavy in focusing on my family and exercise. I try to put many things in there for all eventualities though. If I am at work and can't get up for a jog or even a walk I will practice mindfulness or short meditation. The important thing for me is to remember that my plan changes and is refined and reworked almost every day. I have a notebook where i write all of this stuff down. The plan only stops working when you stop working it, which is exactly what I did last week.
Hope this helps. I am really happy you are here.
store.samhsa.gov/shin/content/SMA-3720/SMA-3720.pdf
It lays out many ideas and some framework. The thing about recovery plans is they are different for everyone. For me it is heavy in focusing on my family and exercise. I try to put many things in there for all eventualities though. If I am at work and can't get up for a jog or even a walk I will practice mindfulness or short meditation. The important thing for me is to remember that my plan changes and is refined and reworked almost every day. I have a notebook where i write all of this stuff down. The plan only stops working when you stop working it, which is exactly what I did last week.
Hope this helps. I am really happy you are here.
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I'm so glad you're here and starting again. I had many day ones as well. I agree that not drinking is a simple concert, but it's not easy, especially in early sobriety. I found when I shifted my focus to recovery it really helped.
This is a great link to get you started on a recovery plan and what might work with you.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...very-plan.html (What exactly is a recovery plan?)
This is a great link to get you started on a recovery plan and what might work with you.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...very-plan.html (What exactly is a recovery plan?)
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Welcome back SWB. Trying harder is a great idea in theory but if what you've been doing hasn't kept you sober, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense practically.
what about trying harder with different things this time?
what about trying harder with different things this time?
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