"Buy me drink", taking pills, "I'm going to die"
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"Buy me drink", taking pills, "I'm going to die"
So I'm still in this drinking episode. AW has used up finances to buy drink and I refuse to spend more money on this crap, there are bills to pay. She's constantly demanding that I go get her drink, she's taking sleeping pills of various kinds and saying she's going to die. She's been drinking 30 units a day for a week and is in quite a state.
She wants me to get her an emergency doctor appointment to get her some Librium.
All of this is nothing new but I just wanted to post here to get some sort of outlet.
Thanks
She wants me to get her an emergency doctor appointment to get her some Librium.
All of this is nothing new but I just wanted to post here to get some sort of outlet.
Thanks
Hi W, do you think you'd better get a doctor around or take her to emergency? Sounds like she needs a medical detox. If she stops on her own she may withdraw too quickly, which can be dangerous.
Good on you for keeping the money away from her. Have you got a plan for the future or will you just take it as it comes?
Good on you for keeping the money away from her. Have you got a plan for the future or will you just take it as it comes?
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Hi W, do you think you'd better get a doctor around or take her to emergency? Sounds like she needs a medical detox. If she stops on her own she may withdraw too quickly, which can be dangerous.
Good on you for keeping the money away from her. Have you got a plan for the future or will you just take it as it comes?
Good on you for keeping the money away from her. Have you got a plan for the future or will you just take it as it comes?
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Am I right? I am completely right to not give her money, not buy her alcohol?
It may be half her money but you are not responsible for spending it for her. I fear, though, bickering over where the money comes from is just a distraction from the real issue, which is that you don't want to live like this anymore. You can continue to wait for her to change, but I think you've seen where that's gotten you, or you can focus on changing yourself.
Sure it may be jointly earned income, as mine and hubby's is, but the bills have top priority.
Yes, this. I hope you take good care of you, I cannot imagine the stress.
It may be half her money but you are not responsible for spending it for her. I fear, though, bickering over where the money comes from is just a distraction from the real issue, which is that you don't want to live like this anymore. You can continue to wait for her to change, but I think you've seen where that's gotten you, or you can focus on changing yourself.
if you two lived apart, i presume she would have some money of her own and you would as well. and you would each spend your money as you each see fit.
i understand very much wanting to protect the finances. i'm unlcear if you both work? do you each bring in income? if so, there's kind of a greyish/black line there about how much control YOU get over HER income.
if however you are the sole provider, you have every right to refuse to fund her drinking.
at the very VERY least, NEVER buy her alcohol for her. we can't on hand rail against them for drinking and then run out and buy them MORE to drink.
it doesn't sound like this is gonna get any better. are you considering different options FOR YOU?
i understand very much wanting to protect the finances. i'm unlcear if you both work? do you each bring in income? if so, there's kind of a greyish/black line there about how much control YOU get over HER income.
if however you are the sole provider, you have every right to refuse to fund her drinking.
at the very VERY least, NEVER buy her alcohol for her. we can't on hand rail against them for drinking and then run out and buy them MORE to drink.
it doesn't sound like this is gonna get any better. are you considering different options FOR YOU?
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W999: I like what someone else said: go for a long walk, get a cup of coffee, maybe catch up with a good friend that has a good ear.
Get some distance from her and do something good for yourself every time she asks for more booze. She appears resigned to her demise so do something that'll help stop from being taken down with her...
Get some distance from her and do something good for yourself every time she asks for more booze. She appears resigned to her demise so do something that'll help stop from being taken down with her...
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