Dee74

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what are some of the old ways you guys have had to give up to walk through new doors?

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andyh

shotgun! thanks Dee

Zombie79

I've given up the notion that alcohol was essentially the answer to everything- happy?- have a drink, annoyed?-have a drink, didn't matter the situation, drink was the answer. My weekend used to be all about drinking, then buying more drink. Seldom did anything get done, I just watched TV then blacked out, forgetting even the storyline of what I was watching.

Sober weekends are a lot better. It's not that I enjoy housework- I really don't, but I'm able to get stuff done and I don't walk around depressed at the state of the place.
Sober weekends mean enjoying breakfast, trying new recipes, enjoying getting out, not feeling trapped in that vicious cycle of drinking- drunk- hungover- buy more drink,etc
Anyways, looking forward to this weekend too:-)

Gilmer

I’m in!

Thanks, Dee.

I gave up the notion that it was just as well to withdraw from the world.

I gave up the notion that it was fine to isolate, because nothing I had to say had any value to anyone. Ironically, I developed many new things worth saying through the challenging process of giving up drinking and rejoining human society.

And I gave up the notion that everyone in my sphere was meant to “click” with me; we’re all in different places with different purposes, and that’s fine. It doesn’t necessarily poorly on anyone, including me.

teaorcoffee

Gilmer - what you just said about isolation hit a chord with me.

Just back from the dentist sorting out a broken tooth - another thing which I'm having to change is actually looking after myself - the dentist being the first step - also cleaning up the flat so that it is somewhere I want to be and have people over to.

theVman31

Thx D.
I'm in too.
I love the long weekends on SR

I'm trying to give up on pulling the wool over my eyes. Giving up kidding myself I can be a normal drinker. Giving up listening to my supercharged AV. 51 days sober.

V.

MidnightBlue

Hi, weekenders.

Thank you for the new thread, Dee)

I have so many things I still need to get out of my way...

I need more coffee.

MidnightBlue

Well, it's weird - I don't want coffee.

Let's see if tea works.

The major roadblocks that stand in my way is feeling of profound unworthiness and being fundamentally flawed.

And perfectionism.

STDragon

I drank at home, hiding it from family and friends. Quite isolated myself. I didn't realize how much I isolated from my family.... my children. What did I have to give up? honestly, I can't think of a single thing I 'had to' give up. It's been such a positive experience living the sober life. I guess the one thing was the notion that I needed alchohol to 'survive'. I spent alot of time inventorying my stock of beer, empties and pocket change, calculating how long I could 'survive' on my current resources until next payday.

venuscat

What are some of the old ways you guys have had to give up to walk through new doors?

Thank you for this question and love and hello. ♥

For me, that is a very pertinent question right now.
I realise my current struggle is because I have reclaimed some of my old ways....ways that did not serve me. I want to think about this.

Onto the weekend with all of you, with love and gratitude.

biminiblue

Doors.

They say one door closes, and another one opens but it's Hell in the hallway.

That seems pretty metaphorically correct for sobriety.

In.

Gilmer

What a beautiful hallway!

Alysheba

Thanks Dee!

Getting closer to Friday!

3trees

i like the quote "don't stumble over something behind you."

it will be a challenging weekend for me. a social event friday night. i have show tix in chicago saturday night. sunday, my kids will be with their dad for my son's birthday party.

i am big on "if you can see it, you can be it." so, today i am going to spend time "seeing" myself at the different locations and the choices i will make. the good thing is that no one is going to notice if i drink or not....well, besides my kids.

they are a huge motivating factor for me. so i am starting to see their face fall if i get a beer instead of a lemonade or diet coke....i already don't like what i see. my head already hurts thinking about it. i can feel the defeat and shame.

i have no doubt i will stay sober this weekend.
no doubt at all.
i am "seeing" my post on monday to confirm this fact.

have a great day and weekend all!

saoutchik

In!

Thank you Dee.

Welcome to Weekenders 3trees!

I didn't have give up an old way but more a case of overcoming my fear of failure. I was so afraid of failure that I never tried to do anything, just take the path of least resistance. More often than not that meant a bottle of scotch and the TV - an alcoholic couch potato.

Gilmer

Welcome, 3Trees!

gettingsmarter

I'm in.

Going to a performance of Gustav Holst's "The Planets" Sunday. Can't wait.

MidnightBlue

Since I am home-bound I am continuing my movie marathon.

I watched "Gone girl" yesterday and liked it. Though it diverted me from marriage life even more)

I've decided to give a try to the 3d season of Twin Peaks.

Honestly there's too much craziness to my taste. I wish it would be accompanies with some kind of annotation "This means that".

But I am curious where all this is going.

biminiblue

My suggestion is to not watch, "Lost." There's a waste of intelligence if ever I've seen it.

I didn't feel nearly as lost with Twin Peaks as I did with Lost.

I was lost.

saoutchik

Oh Twin Peaks is excellent, the craziness is what seperates it from a run of the mill police procedural drama. It is a visual treat.