Day 11
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Day 11
Hey guys,
Having a bit of a wobble today, I said a final (and I mean final) goodbye to my ex last night.
Not sure whether it’s that or whether it’s the sun is shining today but I keep getting little flurries of cravings followed by my brain crashing down on them and saying NO DRINKING
I’m not right on the edge, I’m ok, I’m just having something to eat so hopefully it will subside
Having a bit of a wobble today, I said a final (and I mean final) goodbye to my ex last night.
Not sure whether it’s that or whether it’s the sun is shining today but I keep getting little flurries of cravings followed by my brain crashing down on them and saying NO DRINKING
I’m not right on the edge, I’m ok, I’m just having something to eat so hopefully it will subside
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Join Date: Dec 2017
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Good for you!!! I did the same thing at the beginning, said "NO" out loud whenever I thought about drinking, and conjured up the worst possible drinking memories I could think of! Sadly, it wasn't hard at all.
Hears The Voice
Join Date: Jan 2013
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Originally Posted by Stew1984 
Not sure whether it’s that or whether it’s the sun is shining today but I keep getting little flurries of cravings followed by my brain crashing down on them and saying NO DRINKING
Bravo for imposing executive authority on it and telling it "We're on a new path!"
Keep it going! You're doing great!
Friendly Folk
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Powers Lake, Wisconsin
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You are doing great.
Remember to "play the tape forward" to recall the bad things that happen if you pick up that first drink. You have 11 days of sobriety!
You did great remembering your H.A.L.T. by eating a healthy meal.
Keep posting and reading some of the Day 1 posts, too.
You don't want to go back there, do you? NO!
Remember to "play the tape forward" to recall the bad things that happen if you pick up that first drink. You have 11 days of sobriety!
You did great remembering your H.A.L.T. by eating a healthy meal.
Keep posting and reading some of the Day 1 posts, too.
You don't want to go back there, do you? NO!
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Struggling a bit now guys. Thought I was ok but starting to worry about when I finish my on call with work tomorrow and drinking will be an “option”
Please remind me why it’s best for me to follow this sober course through
Please remind me why it’s best for me to follow this sober course through
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: northern michigan. not the U.P.
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Originally Posted by Stew1984
Please remind me why it’s best for me to follow this sober course through
it reads like time to add some tools to the recovery program.
Friendly Folk
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Powers Lake, Wisconsin
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Because we do not have an "off switch"!
Once we pick up that first drink it will never be enough and we lose the battle with the AV which wants nothing more than to see us weak, sick, depressed, pathetic, foolish and drunk again! It laughs while we suffer another Day 1! If you forgot what withdrawl feels like...drink some spoiled milk! Yuck!
Fight, Stew! Stay with us!
Once we pick up that first drink it will never be enough and we lose the battle with the AV which wants nothing more than to see us weak, sick, depressed, pathetic, foolish and drunk again! It laughs while we suffer another Day 1! If you forgot what withdrawl feels like...drink some spoiled milk! Yuck!
Fight, Stew! Stay with us!
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Well done on Day 11, Stewy.
Drinking is a very bad idea; doing so will, in all likelihood, lead to continued drinking, a serious break in the progress you have made and the momentum you have acquired.
Don't put an X through the beautiful life into which you are heading.
Drinking is bad for us; we are not normal drinkers; we cannot BE normal drinkers.
Keep moving forward, Stewy; there is goodness ahead; I promise.
Drinking is a very bad idea; doing so will, in all likelihood, lead to continued drinking, a serious break in the progress you have made and the momentum you have acquired.
Don't put an X through the beautiful life into which you are heading.
Drinking is bad for us; we are not normal drinkers; we cannot BE normal drinkers.
Keep moving forward, Stewy; there is goodness ahead; I promise.
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Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Calgary, Alberta
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How about switching up your mindset to "drinking is NOT an option".
If I leave it out there as a possible future option, my AV will just bide its time.
Just say NO! It can be that simple in the beginning.
In my early days, I felt crap mostly everyday. But, I had taken drinking completely off the table. No matter how crap I felt, drinking was no longer an option. So, I just had to feel crap for a while.
It didn't kill me.
Stay with it, Stewie, you CAN do this.
If I leave it out there as a possible future option, my AV will just bide its time.
Just say NO! It can be that simple in the beginning.
In my early days, I felt crap mostly everyday. But, I had taken drinking completely off the table. No matter how crap I felt, drinking was no longer an option. So, I just had to feel crap for a while.
It didn't kill me.
Stay with it, Stewie, you CAN do this.
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Remember that "urges" are simply thoughts in your head Stew. You have the choice of how to react to them. You have been doing a great job of coming here and talking things through this week, and you are doing just fine today as well.
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i am sure that going fully NO contact with your ex, or her mother, will go a long ways. you have recently had a lot of contact in that regard....including sending flowers, and then another farewell conversation last nite.
those are ways we set up ourselves up to feel bad, down, morose.
if we want to be successful in sobriety, we HAVE to set up ourselves up to BE successful. and that means eliminating self defeating behaviors.
how about helping clean the house you live in? mow the yard? take out the trash. water the plants. clean the windows. engage in positive simple acts.
those are ways we set up ourselves up to feel bad, down, morose.
if we want to be successful in sobriety, we HAVE to set up ourselves up to BE successful. and that means eliminating self defeating behaviors.
how about helping clean the house you live in? mow the yard? take out the trash. water the plants. clean the windows. engage in positive simple acts.
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Stewy, Day 11 is great!
I hope that you begin the process of healing from your past relationship. This is the time for you to be the best person and best father to your daughter that you can be.
I hope that you begin the process of healing from your past relationship. This is the time for you to be the best person and best father to your daughter that you can be.
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Originally Posted by Stew1984
Please remind me why it’s best for me to follow this sober course through
You have an appropriate amount of discomfort.
Don't try to avoid it.
Sit with it.
Its never going away until it teaches you everything it needs to teach you.
Get your learn on.
You can do this.
- all the best to you.
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