Day 8
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Day 8
I’ve done a workout this morning, had a good breakfast just about to have lunch
Feel horrendous. It’s a mixture of withdrawal and heartbreak. Need to find some relief but not sure where
Just put for a meal with my family they are picking up on my negativity, today though I just feel like wallowing but it’s not going to cut it carrying on like this much longer
Trying to shake these negative feelings and emotions but feel trapped
Feel horrendous. It’s a mixture of withdrawal and heartbreak. Need to find some relief but not sure where
Just put for a meal with my family they are picking up on my negativity, today though I just feel like wallowing but it’s not going to cut it carrying on like this much longer
Trying to shake these negative feelings and emotions but feel trapped
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good on day 8,stewy.
Need to find some relief but not sure where
stewy, one of the longest distance known to man is the distance from the head to the heart.
i LOT of people have said 2 things to you over time:
1-theres going to be discomfort. it will dissipate with time
2- if you work for it
3- with a recovery plan/program
grieving sucks. it involves feelings that arent pleasant. its not deadly, not a drink worthy event, will pass, and helps healing.
intead of trying to shake the feelings, accept them. own them.
just because we're sober doesnt mean we arent going to have feelings and emotions that arent pleasant.
Need to find some relief but not sure where
stewy, one of the longest distance known to man is the distance from the head to the heart.
i LOT of people have said 2 things to you over time:
1-theres going to be discomfort. it will dissipate with time
2- if you work for it
3- with a recovery plan/program
grieving sucks. it involves feelings that arent pleasant. its not deadly, not a drink worthy event, will pass, and helps healing.
intead of trying to shake the feelings, accept them. own them.
just because we're sober doesnt mean we arent going to have feelings and emotions that arent pleasant.
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I appreciate this thank you
So I’ve just been sitting here the last few hours feeling pretty miserable. It’s pouring down with rain outside and I feel like I’m the only person in the world who’s lonely.
I can’t go back to booze, I can’t go back to my old relationship. I feel helpless as those are the things I’ve been “going to “ for a year to soothe myself- both destructive and pointless but both were somehow holding me together. Now I have neither. And the result feels like emptiness, boredom and misery
So I’ve just been sitting here the last few hours feeling pretty miserable. It’s pouring down with rain outside and I feel like I’m the only person in the world who’s lonely.
I can’t go back to booze, I can’t go back to my old relationship. I feel helpless as those are the things I’ve been “going to “ for a year to soothe myself- both destructive and pointless but both were somehow holding me together. Now I have neither. And the result feels like emptiness, boredom and misery
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As tomsteve said, grieving sucks. But many of us have gone through it. I'll share this with you. When I was in my mid 20's I was with a gal that I was going to marry, I loved her with all my heart. It ended horribly, people went to jail, court got involved (primary because of a mutual friend, not us against each other). Anyway, I was devastated. I lost 22 lbs in a month. I cried a lot etc...I suffered through the process and when I was finished, I was 10 times the man I was prior to the break up. I've never allowed myself to get hurt again and I'm now 50. I don't know if that helps you at all but I thought I'd share it to let you know that 100's of millions of people have gone through bad break-ups. On a much more positive note, 8 days is awesome!!!
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8 days is excellent and I understand how hard it is. However, you can't go back, Stewy; what's done is over with. However, you can move forward. Things will get better if you don't drink but if you keep on it will only get worse. I redefined my rock bottom every time I relapsed. Rooting for you.
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"And the result feels like emptiness, boredom and misery"
(((Stewie)))
Please remember that this result is temporary. The sun will shine again.
Please don't go back to what you have proven to yourself does NOT work.
A lot of people on your side here
(((Stewie)))
Please remember that this result is temporary. The sun will shine again.
Please don't go back to what you have proven to yourself does NOT work.
A lot of people on your side here
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Originally Posted by Stew1984 
I feel helpless as those are the things I’ve been “going to “ for a year to soothe myself- both destructive and pointless but both were somehow holding me together. Now I have neither. And the result feels like emptiness, boredom and misery
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Yes, it sucks and then it gets incrementally better, and one day you don't even realize that you feel good again.
Break ups just hurt, whether one is alcoholic or not.
Sober people feel the pain and get through it--we are so used to numbing
the pain it never gets a chance to drain and heal because we don't go through the process of feeling it and letting it go.
You can do this, and in fact you are on your way.
What other support and recovery things can you do to speed the process?
Break ups just hurt, whether one is alcoholic or not.
Sober people feel the pain and get through it--we are so used to numbing
the pain it never gets a chance to drain and heal because we don't go through the process of feeling it and letting it go.
You can do this, and in fact you are on your way.
What other support and recovery things can you do to speed the process?
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