Mirto

Hi,
I am new here and my English aren't so good so sorry for any mistakes.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3,5 years. At first I didn't have a problem with him drinking as he wasn't drinking a lot. Or at least it didn't seem to me a lot. The second year we began to argue a lot over alcohol and it become worse, really ugly. I told him either to get some help or I would leave him. He asked for help, he is almost 3 months without, with one exception, one time in the pub 3 weeks ago.
It is really hard recently, as he sleeps all the time and does almost nothing when he comes home. Sometimes he goes for shopping or for a walk and comes home completely spaced out. Like if he is somebody else. He doesn't smell alcohol , I know he is strongly against drugs , so I can't understand if this is a part of his recovery. I can't help him, he gets ungry and we argue almost every day. It has been very difficult all this for me and as I have no similar experience I don't know what to do.

Thanks for reading..

PhoenixJ

Mirto, your English is fine. I would suggest getting professional support/advice. A GP, AL-ANON meetings are also good (not professional, but very useful), women's support groups- perhaps at a community centre??
Support to you.

DontRemember

Yeah..sek some support/therapy for yourself. I'd also post this in the friends and family section for some 'opposite side' advice.

Berrybean

Yes, seek some support for yourself. Has he considered support for his recovery. Just stopping drinking is NOT recovery. Alcoholics who stop drinking and don't put something (recovery work) in place will tend to be restless, irritable and discontent. This will likely manifest in anxiety, resentments, depressions, hopelessness, and anger. AA might be looking into for him, or SMART recovery, depending what is available in your area.

BB