Pain is pain
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Pain is pain
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The pain of going on in it finally became greater than the pain of moving on.
But its still pain. 30 days now. It gets worse. That pain.
A new kind of pain. Similar. In nature. Equally as deep and peitcung.
The only thing different is its a hopeful pain. The previous pain held no hope.
This pain holds hope. Of change. A pain that makes you want to change to never feel it again
The pain of going on in it finally became greater than the pain of moving on.
But its still pain. 30 days now. It gets worse. That pain.
A new kind of pain. Similar. In nature. Equally as deep and peitcung.
The only thing different is its a hopeful pain. The previous pain held no hope.
This pain holds hope. Of change. A pain that makes you want to change to never feel it again
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Yes, it is.
I just read your other posts from yesterday, I can see you are having a tough time and i'm sorry about that.
What you have been through is hellish, no doubt, but from what you posted you do have a plan and it sounds solid.
As you said, a month later it is still painful, but different. Maybe this pain isn't as much about your xgf as it is about you allowing yourself to feel emotion and work through it?
You mentioned that you are isolating, it's really important not to. I'm sure right now that even when you are with friends or at a meeting, the pain is with you, but it might just help.
As for the Al-Anon meeting you attended, as the person who replied to your other post stated, you never know what gem of wisdom you might find in a meeting and you can share and let them help you.
I just read your other posts from yesterday, I can see you are having a tough time and i'm sorry about that.
What you have been through is hellish, no doubt, but from what you posted you do have a plan and it sounds solid.
As you said, a month later it is still painful, but different. Maybe this pain isn't as much about your xgf as it is about you allowing yourself to feel emotion and work through it?
You mentioned that you are isolating, it's really important not to. I'm sure right now that even when you are with friends or at a meeting, the pain is with you, but it might just help.
As for the Al-Anon meeting you attended, as the person who replied to your other post stated, you never know what gem of wisdom you might find in a meeting and you can share and let them help you.
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Ugh Johnnie, it has been decades but I still remember that pain. It is why I come here and try to cheer you all on who are going through it.
Do whatever you need to do to get through. I don't know quite what your story is but I probably saved my own life by sticking through the pain.
Do whatever you need to do to get through. I don't know quite what your story is but I probably saved my own life by sticking through the pain.
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Originally Posted by johnnie360 
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The pain of going on in it finally became greater than the pain of moving on.
But its still pain. 30 days now. It gets worse. That pain.
A new kind of pain. Similar. In nature. Equally as deep and peitcung.
The only thing different is its a hopeful pain. The previous pain held no hope.
This pain holds hope. Of change. A pain that makes you want to change to never feel it again
The pain of going on in it finally became greater than the pain of moving on.
But its still pain. 30 days now. It gets worse. That pain.
A new kind of pain. Similar. In nature. Equally as deep and peitcung.
The only thing different is its a hopeful pain. The previous pain held no hope.
This pain holds hope. Of change. A pain that makes you want to change to never feel it again
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