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I read it over 20 years ago and it's still relevant. I need to get it again but the library here had all their copies checked out, so it's still very wanted/needed by many of us. She used to have cassettes (I'm old) that you could listen to (I painted my house while listening to her). Great tool for understanding how the dynamics play out and when you stop, things get better (it might take some practice).
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Understanding what codependency meant was one of the main keys to my starting to get a grip on why my life had been the way it had been for all those years. It was about me and XAH, sure, but it was about a whole lot more than that, too--work, friends, family, life in general.
So much looked different. So much made sense now. It changed, and is still changing, everything, as it was the beginning of so much ongoing learning and searching.
Hope you find the same, Wama.
So much looked different. So much made sense now. It changed, and is still changing, everything, as it was the beginning of so much ongoing learning and searching.
Hope you find the same, Wama.
Understanding what codependency meant was one of the main keys to my starting to get a grip on why my life had been the way it had been for all those years. It was about me and XAH, sure, but it was about a whole lot more than that, too--work, friends, family, life in general.
So much looked different. So much made sense now. It changed, and is still changing, everything, as it was the beginning of so much ongoing learning and searching.
Hope you find the same, Wama.
So much looked different. So much made sense now. It changed, and is still changing, everything, as it was the beginning of so much ongoing learning and searching.
Hope you find the same, Wama.
I understood so much more not only about myself, and WHY I was behaving the way I was...but I understood so much more about my upbringing, my parents, my (ex) in laws, so many other loved ones.
I had my daughter read it at 21yrs old when she had a problematic relationship. She learned at 20 what I didn't learn until 40, what my mother at 70+ will likely never learn and what my grandmother certainly never did. I hope we broke the cycle, I think we have.
Life changing stuff.
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