Readygo

My husband and I got to talking about the no drinking, and for whatever reason I felt guilty that I was planning on not drinking. I don’t know why exactly, I’m guessing I read his unenthusiastic tone as a personal offense and he
was putting together a night out with some girl friends that I’m not close enough to to explain my whole life change choice. I have mentioned I don’t want to go out to a bar for that, but maybe a movie, but I feel guilty. I’m pretty sure guilt has been a huge conflicting emotion I have drank to get away from as I’ve felt the same uncomfortable feeling I’ve had before reaching for the wine. That plus my over sensitive nature. Anyway, just thinking outloud 😉

Nonsensical

You are entitled to take care of yourself, RG. No need to feel guilt or shame over it. It takes some getting used to, though - not feeling guilty about making your needs a priority. (It did for me, anyway.)

I found this little exercise helpful. Articulate what it is you feel guilty about and then add "...and that's OK" to the end. Then say it to the mirror five times.

I feel guilty because I don't want to go to a bar with my husband and some friends, and that's OK.

I found it to be helpful.

JJ991

No reason to feel guilty at all, you do what you need to do. Personally, if my husband was arranging a big night out where there would be lots of alcohol I'd think he'd gone bonkers & had forgot my reasons for quitting!

Boxer1

If my choices are feel guilty for being sober or feeling guilty for relapse I’ll take door number one please :0) Hang in there!