Jtmlk

Well im coming up to 14 days sober and ive been particularly grumpy all day. Havent been able to shift it all day.
I ve been to the pub a few times over the last couple of weeks and drunk lime and soda and wasnt a problem, except it shows you how boring, loud and selfish others are when drunk. Today I was invited to meet a good friend in the pub but declined as for some reason I felt it would be too unsafe and triggering. Took a lot to say no as i am a natural yes man who is a complete people pleaser.
It just made me feel very wary- yesterday when in a pub the barmaid automatically poured me a pint of strongbow and with no hesitation I told her I was only drinking lime and soda and it was fine but today very very angsty

Anna

14 days of sobriety is terrific!

I couldn't be around people who were drinking for many months in early recovery. It made me crazy and angry, so I made changes. What else can you do with friends besides hanging out at the pub? Maybe you could meet up for coffee somewhere? I think it's important to make lifestyle changes to support your recovery.

And, I wanted to add something about your being a complete people pleaser. Oprah calls it 'the disease to please', because it will take you down, eventually.

Dee74

Being around drinkers made me miserable and grumpy.

could you and your mates think of something else to do besides going to the pub maybe jtmlk?

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PalmerSage

I've been sober about as long as you, and you could not pay me enough to go to a bar (I'm irritable enough without throwing that into the mix!) Now, the movies or something, sure!

AnvilheadII

last place i wanted to be in early sobriety was a BAR. i found AA meetings much more conducive to sobriety! and i went to LOTS of 'em!