countessdani

I have reciently decided to allow my self time to heal away from my addicted boyfriend. He came home from yet another rehab in September.. things were supposed to be different, and they weren’t. He was still mentally abusive, and financially abusive towards me. I cut off his money supply right now and he’s saying it’s all my fult, how I can’t keep my mouth shut and how I can’t keep things between us. Everyone is telling me I did the right thing, but he does not see that.
I’m no expert in this situation, but from personal experience cut your addicted friend or family member off before they suck you dry, they will manipulate you into believing that this really is your fault... don’t believe that’s for one second!! I’m in so much debt because of addiction, and because I allowed myself to be apart of him and his lifestyle.

AnvilheadII

are you two still living together?

countessdani

Yes we were

Hawkeye13

Are you still supporting him with housing, food, etc. or does he carry his weight?

That might be the next step if he isn't.
Sometimes we actually impede their decision to recover by making
things "too easy" in their life.

If he has to worry about supporting himself, at least for some long period
of time, you can get some financial and emotional relief, and he
can be responsible for himself like the rest of us adults.

Wishing you both healing in 2018

Ann

This ends when you say it ends. What he says, what he does cannot hurt you if you do not allow it by removing him from your life and go no contact.

If your reaction to that is "But...I love him" you might want to ask yourself why, his behaviour is not worthy of love and you deserve to be treated with kindness, not abuse, and he isn't going to change any time soon.

He may have attended rehab but he has a lot to learn about recovery. Being abusive in any way is not part of it.

Good luck.