Babescake

My emotions are all over. I'm dealing with a lot, like a potential divorce and losing my child. I've stayed sober yet my spouse still accuses me of drinking because of spiked emotions and acting weirdly. Is this normal? It is breaking my heart and making me very upset, aka wanting to drink because if accused...

theVman31

Don't make any situation worse by drinking.
Deep breadths shower and calm down. Maybe a long brisk walk. You say "potential divorce" and losing your child ?

Write it down.

Remember to kick that AV back into the darkness.
Drinking will make everything really worse.
Do this for you.

Vinny.

least

Don't drink, whether you are accused or not. It might be wrong to accuse you, but you would also be in the wrong if you drank. Besides, drinking 'at' others only hurts you.

MidnightRider

Sorry you are going through this..
Drinking won't help..

I agree..sometimes .. I am a little "off" and act weird. But as long as I'm sober I will take it as it is.

Accused... of being drunk when you are sober.
Please just laugh it off ..

Best ..

Babescake

I'm just so sick of feeling like this. Even sober. Despair. Hopeless. Pain. I can't stand it.

Babescake

It's hard to laugh off when the accuser is your spouse that wants to ruin your life soon...

Babescake

Breathe and pray. Breathe and pray. It starts working eventually, right?

Babescake

Ended. Nothing. Good bye.

canguy

Hang in there babescake.......it's a bad time of the year, I'm not having such a great time either and there's not a lot going on here right now on SR

canguy

I could easily drop it and drink this afternoon. Just hang on with me for a few hours okay? we can both do this.

Delilah1

Hello,

How are you doing tonight? Just logged in and saw your post. Hope you are doing okay.

JustTony

Don't drink Babescake.

Your AV is talking and telling you this is all pointless. It isn't. Do NOT listen to your AV.

If you have started to drink then pour it away NOW. Go to bed. Wake up and re-group!

PurpleKnight

Keep pushing through, in time those around us will see the real change we've made in our lives, you'll get there!!

Hawkeye13

Sorry you are hurting--don't give up

Gabe1980

Im so sorry things are so tough for you just now. We are all here for you. Love and best wishes. Gabe x

Babescake

Thanks everyone. I still feel hopeless and nothing I do is going to be good enough. I feel like such a failure at life.

canguy

.....how come Babescake?

Babescake

Um, no job, facing divorce and losing custody of my son, gained 40 lbs in last year when never overweight in my life, deeply depressed (ongoing for years, inherited before alcoholism). No motivation and even if do the hard work will feel like I still lose everything.

Hawkeye13

climbing out of the abyss isn't easy, especially at first.

but you can, and you must--first step, stay sober, second step, self-care of eating well and getting some exercise.

when I first quit, I also was carrying 40 extra pounds, sick and facing possible divorce.

it sucks, for sure.
I joined a crossfit and stayed sober.
Within a few weeks I'd dropped quite a few pounds,
was still sober and husband was happier,
I was sleeping through the night and self-esteem improving.

It just takes the first steps and sticking with it
You can do it--really

Dee74

It;s hard to have perspective when you're drinking, or just newly sober.

I couldn't have dreamed up this life I have now,because I never could have imagined most aspects of it as a drinker.

Give yourself a chance to experience recovery - sure there will be changes but reckon you might find it's not as lossy as you think.

D