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Neighbor fixed hot water. STRUGGLING not to drink on payday.

Old 12-11-2017, 05:14 PM
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Neighbor fixed hot water. STRUGGLING not to drink on payday.

I have been to 4 aa meetings this week. Bought 2 bottles on impulse. Decided to do 90 meetings in 90 days. Don't know why I am even posting. Its ground hog day as everyone keeps saying. Can't afford this. Had 3 hours sleep last night. I argued with my neighbor for an hour over that aa does work. Hoping not to drink these bottles so I can go to Aa tonight
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Old 12-11-2017, 05:32 PM
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Pour them out now.
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Old 12-11-2017, 05:34 PM
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Better yet. Return them and get your money back.
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Old 12-11-2017, 05:46 PM
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The same neighbor that sabotaged it ?
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Old 12-11-2017, 05:51 PM
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Pick your battles. No need to argue with the neighbor about AA. Pour out the two bottles and get to a meeting. You know in your heart you don't want to drink.
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Old 12-11-2017, 06:38 PM
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Get rid of the bottles. Pour them out.
That's the priority sweetichick.

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I feel like twinsies in our rationales SC. We can live without the booze, but they still feel good so it is hard to give up the chemical effects. Triggered by others (your neighbor, my husband). I think we live opposite lives on opposite continents, but I will be your sober buddy if u want one. PM me. I have faced challenges too and maybe a more private, direct support while making a new friend would be good for the both of us?
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Please pour those bottles down the drain. Nothing in them will make you feel better.

Feeling so genuinely sad to read your struggle.

I repeat. Please pour them away.
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Hi Sweetichick,

Glad you are posting, sad that you bought two bottles today. If you return them to the store it will be a little more money you are keeping for other things (bills, food....). Also, I thought you were working on distance from your neighbor, you do. If need that drama in your life.
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Old 12-11-2017, 10:42 PM
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Do you have any AA numbers? Call and maybe they’ll come pour out the bottles. Don’t trust yourself.
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Returning the bottles is a great idea or gift them or pour them out. You won't feel better for drinking.

Your aa attendance is none of your neighbours business. Nothing you do is his business. Distancing yourself from him is in your power.
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Old 12-11-2017, 11:01 PM
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I suspect your neighbor is like mine - a narcissist and nothing would give him greater pleasure, than to see you failing. Don't give him the satisfaction x
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How you doing Sweetiechick?

Hope you chose AA over your neighbour. He sounds a right piece of work.

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Old 12-13-2017, 06:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Berrybean View Post
How you doing Sweetiechick?

Hope you chose AA over your neighbour. He sounds a right piece of work.

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Hey Bb . Going to another meeting tonight. Even if I haven't cooked tea which I have today I am going no matter what. I told him I refuse to talk to him re Aa as he doesn't understand.
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Hey Bb . Going to another meeting tonight. Even if I haven't cooked tea which I have today I am going no matter what. I told him I refuse to talk to him re Aa as he doesn't understand.
Excuses are a dime a dozen, stop drinking and do the right thing. We have your back
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Sweetichick - I am with the others regarding not getting/keeping any alcohol, and going to meetings.

I do have to ask a question, meant respectfully and in sincere support for your sobriety:

Do you really want to quit drinking? Quit living with the drama you share in every thread you post?

Recovery and peace are possible, but YOU have to CHOOSE such a new life.

Take care.
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Old 12-14-2017, 08:22 AM
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I hope you got rid of the wine! Stay away from the neighbor he sounds like a trigger for you. I have a neighbor I have decided I am not going to answer the door for him anymore. My husband can if he wants but I am not going too.

When I was drinking I attracted people who used me. Now that I am sober they don't understand why they can't walk on me anymore.

I hope you have a good day.
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