Jesylynn18

My brother is 33, he has struggled with addiction from his late teens. He was on meth for awhile and recovered from that but then turned to alcohol. He's supposedly been sober on and off from his mid 20s until now. But I'm really wondering if he's ever been completely sober. He lives with my parents, lost his job about 5 months ago, he got really depressed and now my mom noticed liquor store purchases on her credit card. She asked him about it and he tried to lie and say he just got cigarettes. He tells me dad he's quitting again but that's what he always says when he's caught. I'm so angry at him at this point. I've talked to him about his depression because I deal with that too and talked him into trying out my therapist. He says he's been going not now we're wondering if he's lying about that. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm so angry that he is just using my parents! If it continues he's going to come between their marriage and may destroy their finances. I want to have a hard talk with him and tell him how angry I am but I'm scared to. We don't have a good relationship as it is, mostly on his part. He's just never seemed like he's cared to try to be my friend/brother. Any advice please?

hopeful4

I am so very sorry.

Addiction is a selfish and hurtful disease. I would recommend a therapist for you and your parents, as well as Alanon or Celebrate Recovery. Not sure which came first, the chicken or the egg, but addiction and this personality type go hand in hand.

Keep posting, you are not alone!

Challenger2013

Your parents should probably confiscate that credit card. They are enabling him and don’t realize it. I know I didn’t.

tomls

There is really nothing anyone can say or do for your brother except him. You can talk till the cows come home but your brother has to be the one to do it. I know it is sad. Best wishes for you and your parents.