Lost everything
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Lost everything
My partner of over 8 years has told me he's had enough & doesn't want me anymore, my drunken rages, fights, flirting with other men & my broken promises, he doesn't live me anymore, we were so in love that after only knowing him 4 months I gave my house & job up & moved me & my 2 children down south to live with him in his house, we both work, have a beautiful house & he's been a father to my 2 children & now I've lost everything, he's threatened it over & over again but always calms down & let's me away with whatever I've done the night before, this is different, 2 weeks on & hes adamant we r over, I'm heartbroken, had to go to the Dr's for counselling, beating myself up every minute of every day, why didn't I take heed, now it seems to late, thanks x
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Welcome, and I'm sorry for your situation.
Hopefully this is a time when you make a decision to change your life and start to live a sober life. You'll find lots of support here.
Hopefully this is a time when you make a decision to change your life and start to live a sober life. You'll find lots of support here.
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Originally Posted by Anna 
Welcome, and I'm sorry for your situation.
Hopefully this is a time when you make a decision to change your life and start to live a sober life. You'll find lots of support here.
Hopefully this is a time when you make a decision to change your life and start to live a sober life. You'll find lots of support here.
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Originally Posted by Netta7171
My partner of over 8 years has told me he's had enough & doesn't want me anymore, my drunken rages, fights, flirting with other men & my broken promises, he doesn't live me anymore, we were so in love that after only knowing him 4 months I gave my house & job up & moved me & my 2 children down south to live with him in his house, we both work, have a beautiful house & he's been a father to my 2 children & now I've lost everything, he's threatened it over & over again but always calms down & let's me away with whatever I've done the night before, this is different, 2 weeks on & hes adamant we r over, I'm heartbroken, had to go to the Dr's for counselling, beating myself up every minute of every day, why didn't I take heed, now it seems to late, thanks x
Still time will keep passing and you can decide how you wish to pass that time, dwelling in the past, or worrying about the future, whichever one you might choose neither one will treat you very well!
Or you can just be, tomorrow isn't here yet so the page has not been turned. To get a different result, you have to take a different action. Understand?
GL and wish you well!
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Welcome, Netta - I'm so sorry for the painful situation you're in. I'm glad you have decided to take care of yourself & break free of your dependency. This is a friendly and encouraging place - we will help.
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Get sober, stay sober, take care of your side of the house and things WILL get better, probably in ways you can't even imagine now. Welcome to SR and good luck with things. Keep posting, we are here to listen and to help.
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All your words of encouragement mean a lot when my world has fell apart, blood tests tomorrow & back to the Dr's on Thursday & cos I've been totally honest with my Dr social services will now be involved..but I knew that would be the case xx
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Originally Posted by BixBees505
We are here for you Netta. Pulling for you. You are taking the only steps that lead forward. Just stay the course. Things will get better, if you do.
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Focus on taking the next right steps...only that. Let go of engineering the outcome...and let go of beating yourself up for the past, too...the present moment, today, is the only space/place/base on which we can act. Stay present. Breathe. Do the next right thing.
Hugs and support. We know this is rough.
Hugs and support. We know this is rough.
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Originally Posted by BixBees505
Focus on taking the next right steps...only that. Let go of engineering the outcome...and let go of beating yourself up for the past, too...the present moment, today, is the only space/place/base on which we can act. Stay present. Breathe. Do the next right thing.
Hugs and support. We know this is rough.
Hugs and support. We know this is rough.
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Sorry for the situation you're in ut glad you've found us and seem to be ready to take this as a wake-up call.
Actually, you have not lost everything (yet!). You still have your children - please take heed now and do what you can to keep them with you and be the mum you know they deserve. I have too many freinds in recovery who have been through the pain of being seperated from their children. Social Services will want to help, but if they think you're putting your kids in danger by continuing to drink then they may well consider you a risk rather than responsible.
Is there any chance of you getting to some AA meetings - maybe in the week while the kids are at school. Plenty of places have lunch time meetings. Getting sober doesn't need to be a lonely business - there will be plenty of folk local to you ahead of you on the path to recovery who would be only to happy to support and guide you along the path, as we are here. You can't beat having some local sobriety pals to call and meet for a cuppa and a natter though.
Take care missus.
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Actually, you have not lost everything (yet!). You still have your children - please take heed now and do what you can to keep them with you and be the mum you know they deserve. I have too many freinds in recovery who have been through the pain of being seperated from their children. Social Services will want to help, but if they think you're putting your kids in danger by continuing to drink then they may well consider you a risk rather than responsible.
Is there any chance of you getting to some AA meetings - maybe in the week while the kids are at school. Plenty of places have lunch time meetings. Getting sober doesn't need to be a lonely business - there will be plenty of folk local to you ahead of you on the path to recovery who would be only to happy to support and guide you along the path, as we are here. You can't beat having some local sobriety pals to call and meet for a cuppa and a natter though.
Take care missus.
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Funny how quitting the booze now seems the least of my worries, cos of my actions I'm going to lose our home, sooner or later as it belongs to my partner or ex partner, I've got myself into thousands of pounds worth of debt, I can't move out cos basically we wouldn't be able to afford the basics, I've not had to pay household bills for 8 years, he paid all the bills & I've still managed to get into debt, the future certainly looks bleak....
I could see peace instead of this
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Welcome, Netta!
We all get wake-up calls until we finally pay attention and put some work into changing our course. This is a great place to find information and support to help you with that.
As already suggested, life really can be better than you can even imagine right now; it just takes some time and effort.
We all get wake-up calls until we finally pay attention and put some work into changing our course. This is a great place to find information and support to help you with that.
As already suggested, life really can be better than you can even imagine right now; it just takes some time and effort.
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