Finishing Day 2: What’s My Reward?
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Finishing Day 2: What’s My Reward?
A major fight with my wife. What started it? She got mad that I threw out some old cooking magazines. I just left the house after a shouting match.
But I am not going to a bar or get any alcohol. I am going to the gym. I am, however, shaking like a leaf. I am under a lot of stress, and I did not need this.
I really do not want to go home for a while. I am so mad right now.
But I won’t drink. I’ll do some cardio for an hour or so.
But I am not going to a bar or get any alcohol. I am going to the gym. I am, however, shaking like a leaf. I am under a lot of stress, and I did not need this.
I really do not want to go home for a while. I am so mad right now.
But I won’t drink. I’ll do some cardio for an hour or so.
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I know you're being sarcastic but people will still be mad at you when you get sober - sometimes unfairly.
Relationships going through a rough parch will still probably be in that rough patch a while even if you're sober.
What sobriety will give you is a level playing field - an emotional constancy, and the chance to think about things and perhaps react differently to the same old situations.
You may even solve some problems - and IMO *thats* your reward
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Relationships going through a rough parch will still probably be in that rough patch a while even if you're sober.
What sobriety will give you is a level playing field - an emotional constancy, and the chance to think about things and perhaps react differently to the same old situations.
You may even solve some problems - and IMO *thats* your reward
D
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
I know you're being sarcastic but people will still be mad at you when you get sober - sometimes unfairly.
Relationships going through a rough parch will still probably be in that rough patch a while even if you're sober.
What sobriety will give you is a level playing field - an emotional constancy, and the chance to think about things and perhaps react differently to the same old situations.
You may even solve some problems - and IMO *thats* your reward
D
Relationships going through a rough parch will still probably be in that rough patch a while even if you're sober.
What sobriety will give you is a level playing field - an emotional constancy, and the chance to think about things and perhaps react differently to the same old situations.
You may even solve some problems - and IMO *thats* your reward
D
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Just one comment re your title....
I've heard it said a lot of times in the rooms and think it's worth repeating (to myself as well as here) - "we can't expect a parade!" As self-centered as us alcoholics tend to be- we see that we are getting healthy and all - and can think things like "I made it 90 days" or "9 mo!" (that's the time I expected a big ol' celebration and was disappointed) and expect kudos....for becoming a NORMAL person....! Generally not what others are thinking.
That said- as others have noted- we get a reward every day that we are sober.
Keep going!
ps as I also have learned in my 20+ mo sober (and am still working on) - I have to look at my part when I am mad....not always easy but much better than living in anger.
I've heard it said a lot of times in the rooms and think it's worth repeating (to myself as well as here) - "we can't expect a parade!" As self-centered as us alcoholics tend to be- we see that we are getting healthy and all - and can think things like "I made it 90 days" or "9 mo!" (that's the time I expected a big ol' celebration and was disappointed) and expect kudos....for becoming a NORMAL person....! Generally not what others are thinking.
That said- as others have noted- we get a reward every day that we are sober.
Keep going!
ps as I also have learned in my 20+ mo sober (and am still working on) - I have to look at my part when I am mad....not always easy but much better than living in anger.
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The one thing I realized is that getting drunk would only make things infinitely worse. It could have sent me back into a tailspin. And further, my marriage has had problems for quite some time. Having a bunch of alcohol was/is not going to change that. And most of the problems in my marriage have nothing to do with alcohol. But alcohol impairs, if not helps me avoid, my ability to deal with them.
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Originally Posted by Horn95
What started it? She got mad that I threw out some old cooking magazines.
whose magazines were they?
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