Reaching Out
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Reaching Out
Update on son blabbing business to his friends.
My son chatting about me and his alcoholic dad to people has worked out well despite my fears. He gained a fabulous girlfriend out of it and I seem to have made some new friends. I've learn I need to reach out more and not think people do not want to know me as my default. Son also think I should just go for it with the farmer but am not that brave yet
My son chatting about me and his alcoholic dad to people has worked out well despite my fears. He gained a fabulous girlfriend out of it and I seem to have made some new friends. I've learn I need to reach out more and not think people do not want to know me as my default. Son also think I should just go for it with the farmer but am not that brave yet
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I agree with your son--I remember a post you made as Tansy when you told
us you saw the farmer and hopped over a fence to get away
If that isn't intense chemistry, I don't know what is.
He sounds like a fine man from what you've said.
You deserve no less.
Get your hair done, a new outfit, and git after that bloke girl
us you saw the farmer and hopped over a fence to get away
If that isn't intense chemistry, I don't know what is.
He sounds like a fine man from what you've said.
You deserve no less.
Get your hair done, a new outfit, and git after that bloke girl
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Agree with the rest. Own it and do not carry shame or guilt. I feel like it will feel like a burden has been lifted off your shoulders once you start NGAF! (Sorry for the cursing - I hope you can deduce what NGAF stands for. haha..)
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Who to tell?
Sharing your experience is an important and possibly anxious moment for you in your healing. Choosing whom to tell is a big step for everyone. The feeling of safety in the person you are telling is a good start.
Questions may race through your mind like “Will they believe me?” or “Will they hate me for what happened?” or worse yet “Will I be blamed for what happened?”
Before sharing your experience ask yourself these questions…
1. Has this person been supportive to me at other times in our relationship?
2. When I observe this person interacting with others, is there a degree of compassion and understanding they show to others?
3. Do you know this person to be non-judgmental and accepting of different points of view?
Sharing your experience is an important and possibly anxious moment for you in your healing. Choosing whom to tell is a big step for everyone. The feeling of safety in the person you are telling is a good start.
Questions may race through your mind like “Will they believe me?” or “Will they hate me for what happened?” or worse yet “Will I be blamed for what happened?”
Before sharing your experience ask yourself these questions…
1. Has this person been supportive to me at other times in our relationship?
2. When I observe this person interacting with others, is there a degree of compassion and understanding they show to others?
3. Do you know this person to be non-judgmental and accepting of different points of view?
I'm no longer hiding. I can choose to acknowledge something if it's brought up.
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