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No matter what the future looks like to you right now, it is not the future. You'll only know when you get there. At 20 years old I tried to kill myself and I was unsuccessful. I have two kids now, who are 6 and 4, and they are the best little troublemakers you could ever imagine. I couldn't see them 18 years ago, they weren't a possibility to me then. I couldn't imagine that they would exist. If I had succeeded in drowning myself they wouldn't.
My point is you don't know what the future holds. As dark as it seems right now, just promise yourself to keep going and trust God, fate, whatever, to take care of the rest. Never give up. We have to keep moving forward. The future is something we can't see right now, and it will be beautiful, and sometimes painful. But we have to keep going my friend. Praying for you!
My point is you don't know what the future holds. As dark as it seems right now, just promise yourself to keep going and trust God, fate, whatever, to take care of the rest. Never give up. We have to keep moving forward. The future is something we can't see right now, and it will be beautiful, and sometimes painful. But we have to keep going my friend. Praying for you!
Please stop drinking. It's only making you more depressed. Don't do anything stupid or harmful. If you are drinking, you're not thinking sensibly. I hope you get rid of the alcohol and get some sleep.
Hi Bob
Drinking has a way of magnifying despair, and making things seem very black and white.
You drank again - ok that's not great but you can definitely come back from this
You are far from being too gone, man.
Many of us have relapsed, picked ourselves up, redoubled our efforts, made better plans and stayed sober
If you're feeling really low right now why not give a crisis line a call? some numbers and good reading here too:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ease-read.html
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Drinking has a way of magnifying despair, and making things seem very black and white.
You drank again - ok that's not great but you can definitely come back from this
You are far from being too gone, man.
Many of us have relapsed, picked ourselves up, redoubled our efforts, made better plans and stayed sober
If you're feeling really low right now why not give a crisis line a call? some numbers and good reading here too:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ease-read.html
D
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Up this morning. Tears in my eyes reading posts. Pretty sure my wife knew about last night but said nothing this morning. She never holds back. This seems to be the only place I can talk.
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Thanks. I will. Sometimes think why does anyone want to hear my continuous whining. There are so many caring people on this site, it baffles me. I was raised to deal with things myself and not depend on others. This site may change my thinking.
I found that honestly was the best practice for me initially Bob. It's not easy either - when we are drinking our default is to hide everything.
You cannot "confront" or explain away your addiction though. By being honest, i mean admitting that you have a problem - first to yourself, and then making an absolute commitment to do whatever it takes to quit drinking and get sober.
That's what I told my wife when I finally reached the decision to quit - that I know I have a problem and that I will do anything I can to fix it.
You cannot "confront" or explain away your addiction though. By being honest, i mean admitting that you have a problem - first to yourself, and then making an absolute commitment to do whatever it takes to quit drinking and get sober.
That's what I told my wife when I finally reached the decision to quit - that I know I have a problem and that I will do anything I can to fix it.
If alcohol is causing a problem (and you admit it is) then stopping it is the solution.
I don't think couples' counselors work with active alcoholics. It's kind of pointless.
Everything - and I mean everything - becomes manageable and clear when alcohol is removed.
If you are finding that you cannot quit, how about hitting up an AA meeting or going to an Outpatient program for cessation of alcohol?
No one is too far gone.
I don't think couples' counselors work with active alcoholics. It's kind of pointless.
Everything - and I mean everything - becomes manageable and clear when alcohol is removed.
If you are finding that you cannot quit, how about hitting up an AA meeting or going to an Outpatient program for cessation of alcohol?
No one is too far gone.
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Thank you anna. I look at our marriage as a 34 year commitment. I don't have that many years left in me. She has better genes. I don't want the pain of any separation with my remaining years. She is better than she talks. She is stubborn and quiet just like I am.
I think talking about it is probably your best bet. If you can't do it on your own perhaps you need some intervention from a counselor/therapist as Anna suggests. But it certainly wouldn't hurt to just try and talk first. All you need to say is that you have a problem and you want to fix it. She may or may not be supportive but you'll never know if you don't say anything right?
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