Thoughts?
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Thoughts?
Need some help, I am a recovering alcoholic. I have been sober for 3 years. Here recently, my spouse has been hanging out and drinking a couple of beers and coming home. Her hanging out is cool with me but what bothers me is that she kisses me and I can smell and taste the alcohol. I told her that it bothered me and brings up memories of our past. She thinks I am trying to control her and make her quit. I would love for her to stop but she is her own person and can do what she wants. She says she won't come home anymore when she's had some beer or wine so I don't have to smell it or be around it. I don't know what to do or say. Anything I say turns into a battle. Need some help or am I thinking correctly about her drinking? She only goes out maybe once or twice a month and drinks once or twice a month. She doesn't get drunk and only drinks about 2...
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My two cents, which may be worthless but... Once or twice a month and about two drinks certainly is nothing. I personally wouldn't get upset about it at all. Sounds a bit extreme to me but that's my opinion. Good luck.
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You've told her how you feel, so I think you have to find a way to make this work for you. If it's just once or twice a month, maybe you could distance yourself when she comes home and not be physically close to her when she comes in the door?
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