bllit

Well I said I would keep posting and not disappear and I have so now I'm going to follow what I tell members here keep trying no matter what so it's day one for me today I do have a plan now .

noturningback2

having a plan and working it to the letter every single day is the only way i have got sober this long, and not be a 'dry drunk'. Keep going, put the time into it, there will be some dark days, but they get fewer and far between the longer you continue.Well done on being back here.

SimplyFree

A plan is awesome. I kept developing my plan as I got smarter and found myself in different stages and situations. Stay strong!

DontRemember

A plan is a MUST have. I tried stopping without one a few times and it never stuck. I was basically a 'dry drunk'. Even the blowup I had with my daughter recently should/could have been avoided with the use of my plan,so I tweaked it to better handle those situations in the future. Stick around!

Dee74

Whats your plan look like bllt?

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D122y

Bllit,

I can relate. Hang in there.

Thanks.

bllit

I tried aa didn't fit to well so I have been reading about avrt I also still have the aa book and been reading it and sr.

bllit

I am trying to tweek my plan as I have slipped before so I have to change my habits another thing is health reasons that in itself is a big incentive.

Anna

That sounds good. I think that recognizing there is more to recovery than stopping drinking is a big step. Changing your habits is important.

DontRemember

Hey,man.. It's not my intention to kick you while you're down,please know that. I went back and read most of your threads. Seems like you're 'ok' for a few days and then 'go back out'. I also noticed the word(s) "trying/tried" a lot in your posts. I had to remove the 'trying' out of my plan entirely to get it to stick. I'm still in early days IMO and I'm at 9months(one night slip in there). I still have thoughts of 'have a beer with them. You're at a party!'. 'bad day at work' 'just broke up'..You know..LIFE. I've finally understood that drinking is NOT going to change or help any of life's struggles..or even help me have a better time at that party...it does the exact opposite. Build up as many tools as you can..then build up more..tweak them as you notice the thoughts creep in. Just eating hasn't helped you stop. Just posting here hasn't helped you stop. Maybe rehab?
You can read my past threads on here and see how my life kept getting worse after I signed up. Hang in there! It's not easy and takes lots of work on your part,but it does get better!

bllit

D.R . no problem you are right tried or trying needs to be taken out . congrats on 9 months

Hevyn

You're determined, bllit - you aren't giving up. Proud of you for that.

Gottalife

My first plan was one I attempted many times. Waking up so sick, full of remorse and despair I would decide "I am not going to drink today." And I absolutely meant it.

Later in the day I completely forgot my plan and why I had made it, and ended up drunk again, making the same plan a few days later, and forgetting again in a few hours. It seems hard to just not do something.

I got better results when I started "doing" things. Woke up willing to do anything to end the misery. Decided and acted on a few things.

I am going to live a different way.
I am goin to call an organization for help with this
I am going to see a person who has recovered to find out what to do.
I am going to a meeting with this person
I am going to listen to these people.
I am going to ask questions about how to take the required action
I am going to take some of that action today
I am going to make these meetings a regular thing.
I am going to act on anything I hear that is stressed as being very important.
I am going to collect some phone numbers
I am going to get in the habit of calling people
I am going to look for this higher power thing
I am going to give rides to people who need them to get to or from meetings
I am going to sit and talk to people
I am going to help set up and clean up
I am going to take what I learn and try to apply it in my daily life
I am going to be self supporting
I am going to be honest about my problems
If an opportunity comes, I am going to try and help someone else.
I am going to try prayer.

There were probably quite a few actions I haven't written down here either. I don't remember deciding to not drink. Instead. Once I got busy trying to live a different way, the thought of a drink never came back with any force. Once the action started, the drinking stopped. It must have been the right action.