6 Months today!
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6 Months today!
So today I've been sober for six months. Pretty amazing!
I wish I could share some fantastic secret or insights that could make this easier for everyone that is in their first week or so and struggling but I don't have that. For to me it really has been down to a few simple facts:
* Moderation is just not worth it. 100% sober is easier. Really understanding that is what has made this possible.
* Cravings pass pretty quick.
* The idea that "maybe I can drink like a normal now" is madness from a benefit/risk analysis point of view. Not worth it.
While I spend very little time thinking about drinking/being sober etc on a daily basis - I still can't say that I feel 100% secure in my sobriety. Alcohol makes me nervous/upset. I can be with people that drink but I still feel a bit awkward - especially when people start the whole "just one". I still have nightmares about being drunk - at least once a week. I still worry that I one day might "forget" that I'm an alcoholic, pick up a drink and it all comes tumbling down. I hope I'll eventually feel even more settled in my sobriety but even if that doesn't happen, it's OK, this is so much better than the horrible cycle of drink-regret that we are all so familiar with.
I wish I could share some fantastic secret or insights that could make this easier for everyone that is in their first week or so and struggling but I don't have that. For to me it really has been down to a few simple facts:
* Moderation is just not worth it. 100% sober is easier. Really understanding that is what has made this possible.
* Cravings pass pretty quick.
* The idea that "maybe I can drink like a normal now" is madness from a benefit/risk analysis point of view. Not worth it.
While I spend very little time thinking about drinking/being sober etc on a daily basis - I still can't say that I feel 100% secure in my sobriety. Alcohol makes me nervous/upset. I can be with people that drink but I still feel a bit awkward - especially when people start the whole "just one". I still have nightmares about being drunk - at least once a week. I still worry that I one day might "forget" that I'm an alcoholic, pick up a drink and it all comes tumbling down. I hope I'll eventually feel even more settled in my sobriety but even if that doesn't happen, it's OK, this is so much better than the horrible cycle of drink-regret that we are all so familiar with.
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Congrats Tonggau
If you still feel a little insecure around drinkers, why not spend a little more time here?
Recovery is a little like an engine IMO- it needs regular maintenance to really run at top speed.
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If you still feel a little insecure around drinkers, why not spend a little more time here?
Recovery is a little like an engine IMO- it needs regular maintenance to really run at top speed.
D
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
Posts: 4,174
tong,
Congrats. Repeating I am a non drinker over and over gets easier and easier.
Being sober has changed my confidence level to the highest in my life.
I engage w folks, when needed, smartly and fearlessly.
There is no underlying knowledge that I am an active addict.
Thanks.
Congrats. Repeating I am a non drinker over and over gets easier and easier.
Being sober has changed my confidence level to the highest in my life.
I engage w folks, when needed, smartly and fearlessly.
There is no underlying knowledge that I am an active addict.
Thanks.
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Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: Northwest U.S.
Posts: 778
Congratulations on 6 months of sobriety Tonggau! You are accomplishing something amazing, so be sure to take the time to celebrate your successes. It is most certainly healthy that you still have some concerns; overconfidence in our sobriety is the downfall of many. Great job!
Well done, tonggau!!!!!
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Why not stop by the 24 Hour Recovery Connection thread for a daily dose of sobriety? 
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Originally Posted by tonggau 
So today I've been sober for six months. Pretty amazing!
I wish I could share some fantastic secret or insights that could make this easier for everyone that is in their first week or so and struggling but I don't have that. For to me it really has been down to a few simple facts:
* Moderation is just not worth it. 100% sober is easier. Really understanding that is what has made this possible.
* Cravings pass pretty quick.
* The idea that "maybe I can drink like a normal now" is madness from a benefit/risk analysis point of view. Not worth it.
While I spend very little time thinking about drinking/being sober etc on a daily basis - I still can't say that I feel 100% secure in my sobriety. Alcohol makes me nervous/upset. I can be with people that drink but I still feel a bit awkward - especially when people start the whole "just one". I still have nightmares about being drunk - at least once a week. I still worry that I one day might "forget" that I'm an alcoholic, pick up a drink and it all comes tumbling down. I hope I'll eventually feel even more settled in my sobriety but even if that doesn't happen, it's OK, this is so much better than the horrible cycle of drink-regret that we are all so familiar with.
I wish I could share some fantastic secret or insights that could make this easier for everyone that is in their first week or so and struggling but I don't have that. For to me it really has been down to a few simple facts:
* Moderation is just not worth it. 100% sober is easier. Really understanding that is what has made this possible.
* Cravings pass pretty quick.
* The idea that "maybe I can drink like a normal now" is madness from a benefit/risk analysis point of view. Not worth it.
While I spend very little time thinking about drinking/being sober etc on a daily basis - I still can't say that I feel 100% secure in my sobriety. Alcohol makes me nervous/upset. I can be with people that drink but I still feel a bit awkward - especially when people start the whole "just one". I still have nightmares about being drunk - at least once a week. I still worry that I one day might "forget" that I'm an alcoholic, pick up a drink and it all comes tumbling down. I hope I'll eventually feel even more settled in my sobriety but even if that doesn't happen, it's OK, this is so much better than the horrible cycle of drink-regret that we are all so familiar with.
Keep going, it will get better. 
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