Stopped myself from buying wine as a gift
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Stopped myself from buying wine as a gift
We are going to a dinner at someone's home tonight.
We usually bring wine as a host gift when we are invited to someone's home, and I was in the store today thinking, "I have to buy wine". I didn't want to, but figured I needed to and that maybe it would be OK for me to walk in to the Beer/Wine section and pick up a bottle this one time, because it was a gift, and it's not like I"d be tempted. But I have made it a RULE I won't buy wine, so it wasn't sitting right. I considered asking my husband to make a stop to go buy some..
Then I realized, wait. Why do we need to do this at all?
Why would I bring something I am so actively trying to avoid? Why am I in effect encouraging the consumption of something that has caused me so much grief and damage. Even if it's not a "problem" for them, it is for me, and why would I promote it and provide it? They can buy their own wine.
It had become a reflex.
I know this is a silly thing.. but amazing how much thought I had to put into something as little as this, all because I had given this substance such an outsize role in my life.
So, I'm bringing something totally different, not food or drink at all.
We usually bring wine as a host gift when we are invited to someone's home, and I was in the store today thinking, "I have to buy wine". I didn't want to, but figured I needed to and that maybe it would be OK for me to walk in to the Beer/Wine section and pick up a bottle this one time, because it was a gift, and it's not like I"d be tempted. But I have made it a RULE I won't buy wine, so it wasn't sitting right. I considered asking my husband to make a stop to go buy some..
Then I realized, wait. Why do we need to do this at all?
Why would I bring something I am so actively trying to avoid? Why am I in effect encouraging the consumption of something that has caused me so much grief and damage. Even if it's not a "problem" for them, it is for me, and why would I promote it and provide it? They can buy their own wine.
It had become a reflex.
I know this is a silly thing.. but amazing how much thought I had to put into something as little as this, all because I had given this substance such an outsize role in my life.
So, I'm bringing something totally different, not food or drink at all.
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I see bringing wine as a hostess gift inappropriate for me. Understandably, most people don't a problem with drinking, but I do, so I always look for something different. There is a specialty chocolate shop nearby and they have some perfect gift ideas.
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I almost always take nice bouquet of flowers and it is always appreciated. The only exception to this is it it is a larger gathering - say 12 or more- and the host or hostess will be busy welcoming others and finishing putting out hors d'oeuvres, giving flowers then requires the host or hostess to go find a vase and tend to the flowers to get them in water, etc. In this case, Anna's idea of some nice chocolates would be great. I also like the idea of a scented candle. A nice basket of fine guest soaps would also be good.
Good for you!
Good for you!
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