MMartin

Hi guys, found this site hoping for some help/support without pulling on the strings too much. I did 10 days sober recently then went off on a massive week bender now trying to pull myself back again. Been in and out AA and that's not for me so trying to find other avenues, but if I have to go bk I will.. Ive got a little girl now and she's more important but how do you change a lifetime of 20 years (drink or drugs??)
A lot of hard will and graft I suppose. My family aren't talking to me, ive pretty much alienated all my friends so when bubs goes to bed I sit here on my own every night, so easy to pick up a glass. Maybe I should learn how to nit - pick up the bag and get on YouTube it's been sitting in my front room corner for a year now for that exact reason - pretty bad huh? Any help/advice/critismn welcome xx

least

Welcome to the family. I hope our support can help you get sober for good.

Hevyn

Welcome to a great place, MMartin! You'll find plenty of encouragement here - from people who understand.

I drank 30 yrs. I really couldn't imagine my life without it, even though it only made me miserable in the end. I was afraid to let go - but being here & talking things over helped me find the courage to change. It really eased my anxiety to share my feelings. You're never alone.

Dee74

you change it day by day MMartin

The community here helped me turn my life around - I know we can help you do the same

MMartin

Thanks guys, I'll be on here reading and talking... you never how many people are walking the same footsteps until you reach out. Big love to everyone - ill be back on day 1 tomorrow god help me lol x
V disheartening to see people so much better than you with a lot more days under their belt but still struggling the same x
A daily fight that's need to be won xx

MMartin

Xx much appreciated

MMartin

That's amazing thank you - no disrespect but I hope I can shave the extra 10 years that you did on your 30 - who knows where I'll end up.. I barely know what day of the week it is at mo 😯
So nice to talk to people who understand, really appreciate you guys messaging so late at night xx

MMartin

❤xx

Dee74

This is not the best it gets MMartin - I don't struggle with not drinking any more, anytime

You'll get there too

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loulou1981

Hey welcome MMartin, ull find loads of support here. Id b drinking if it wasn't for this lot!
Keep posting & reading. In the early days keep busy, get an early night's sleep & get fresh air.
Ur family/friendships u maybe able to rebuild in time.
Focus on ur little lady, plan quality funtime which ull love without the hangover or the thought of "god i need some wine"!!

shauninspain

''A lot of hard will and graft I suppose.'' - I thought that sobriety was a result of gritting my teeth and fighting it. I always relapsed. When I finally conceded that alcoholism was FAR stronger than me I felt hopeless, until someone suggested to me that the road to sobriety was not a fight, but total acceptance. I stopped fighting alcoholism and started to quietly accept that I was suffering from an illness/condition that was totally incurable. Strangely, giving up the 'fight' has enabled me to stay drink free one day at a time for a while now.