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Old 07-25-2017, 07:45 AM
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Hey guys,
So now i've been around 3 months sober and i was invited to a nightclub party. I was wondering if it is safe to go ! And has anyone tried clubbing wihout alcohol, is it still fun ?!
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Old 07-25-2017, 08:11 AM
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Hey guys,
I was wondering if it is safe to go !
If there's a chance you'll drink, then no, it's not safe.

I avoided alcohol-centric events until I had about 9 months sober. Went to a wedding and reception. And that was tough. No, I couldn't have gone out at three months. Too soon.
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Old 07-25-2017, 08:17 AM
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Yes.. I am sure it's possible if you are ready.

Make a plan.

Plan exactly what you will be drinking.

I ordered soda and lime and in a Short glass. (not a tall glass). Because the tall glass prompted people to ask "what are you drinking" ? I did not want to deal with that sorta thing. OH and do not let anyone get a drink for you..... You handle your own.

Keep SR on your smartphone.

Also have an Exit plan.

I way out and a way home ...if you cannot stay for "some" reason.
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Old 07-25-2017, 08:28 AM
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when i was early in recovery and wondered if something was safe for me to do, a friend would tell me:
"if youre wondering if its safe to do, ya already know its not.do you want to live or die?"
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Old 07-25-2017, 08:36 AM
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when i was early in recovery and wondered if something was safe for me to do, a friend would tell me:
"if youre wondering if its safe to do, ya already know its not.do you want to live or die?"
THIS.. is very good advice too
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Old 07-25-2017, 08:57 AM
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Originally Posted by Kassir View Post
Hey guys,
So now i've been around 3 months sober and i was invited to a nightclub party. I was wondering if it is safe to go ! And has anyone tried clubbing wihout alcohol, is it still fun ?!
I attempted to go to a few bars a couple of months into my sobriety and successfully did so without drinking, but it definitely was not fun. It was certainly eye opening as I realized how loud, obnoxious and generally annoying I must have been back when I was drinking.

My rule of thumb is that I go places and attend events where drinking might also be taking place ( restaurants, weddings, graduation parties etc )...but I do not attend events where drinking alcohol is the primary focus. Bars and nightclubs would fit in that category for me - they are places that exclusively exist for drinking alcohol, and i don't drink alcohol anymore.
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My rule of thumb is that I go places and attend events where drinking might also be taking place ( restaurants, weddings, graduation parties etc )...but I do not attend events where drinking alcohol is the primary focus. Bars and nightclubs would fit in that category for me - they are places that exclusively exist for drinking alcohol, and i don't drink alcohol anymore.[/QUOTE]

If you don't mind I've just stolen your rule of thumb as my new rule of thumb!
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Old 07-25-2017, 11:23 AM
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I am over 5 months sober and I do not feel that it would be a wise decision for me to go. But everyone is different.
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Old 07-25-2017, 11:32 AM
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It could be an interesting experiment for you. Certainly you'll learn more about yourself and your disease.

I experimented early in recovery. It was rather stressful. I wouldn't put myself in that situation again, but as CreativeThinker writes, everyone is different.
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Old 07-26-2017, 04:30 AM
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Originally Posted by tomsteve View Post
when i was early in recovery and wondered if something was safe for me to do, a friend would tell me:
"if youre wondering if its safe to do, ya already know its not.do you want to live or die?"
You are most probably right. Maybe i should wait to take such action.
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Old 07-26-2017, 04:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Kassir View Post
You are most probably right. Maybe i should wait to take such action.
it is something to think about.
some things i have to ask myself when going anywhere there is alcohol:

do i have a legitimate reason for going?
if not, then best not to

Have I any good social, business, or personal reason for going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such?
if i am, best not to go
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