Fun or not!
If there's a chance you'll drink, then no, it's not safe.
I avoided alcohol-centric events until I had about 9 months sober. Went to a wedding and reception. And that was tough. No, I couldn't have gone out at three months. Too soon.
I avoided alcohol-centric events until I had about 9 months sober. Went to a wedding and reception. And that was tough. No, I couldn't have gone out at three months. Too soon.
Yes.. I am sure it's possible if you are ready.
Make a plan.
Plan exactly what you will be drinking.
I ordered soda and lime and in a Short glass. (not a tall glass). Because the tall glass prompted people to ask "what are you drinking" ? I did not want to deal with that sorta thing. OH and do not let anyone get a drink for you..... You handle your own.
Keep SR on your smartphone.
Also have an Exit plan.
I way out and a way home ...if you cannot stay for "some" reason.
Make a plan.
Plan exactly what you will be drinking.
I ordered soda and lime and in a Short glass. (not a tall glass). Because the tall glass prompted people to ask "what are you drinking" ? I did not want to deal with that sorta thing. OH and do not let anyone get a drink for you..... You handle your own.
Keep SR on your smartphone.
Also have an Exit plan.
I way out and a way home ...if you cannot stay for "some" reason.
when i was early in recovery and wondered if something was safe for me to do, a friend would tell me:
"if youre wondering if its safe to do, ya already know its not.do you want to live or die?"
"if youre wondering if its safe to do, ya already know its not.do you want to live or die?"
My rule of thumb is that I go places and attend events where drinking might also be taking place ( restaurants, weddings, graduation parties etc )...but I do not attend events where drinking alcohol is the primary focus. Bars and nightclubs would fit in that category for me - they are places that exclusively exist for drinking alcohol, and i don't drink alcohol anymore.
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My rule of thumb is that I go places and attend events where drinking might also be taking place ( restaurants, weddings, graduation parties etc )...but I do not attend events where drinking alcohol is the primary focus. Bars and nightclubs would fit in that category for me - they are places that exclusively exist for drinking alcohol, and i don't drink alcohol anymore.[/QUOTE]
If you don't mind I've just stolen your rule of thumb as my new rule of thumb!
If you don't mind I've just stolen your rule of thumb as my new rule of thumb!
It could be an interesting experiment for you. Certainly you'll learn more about yourself and your disease.
I experimented early in recovery. It was rather stressful. I wouldn't put myself in that situation again, but as CreativeThinker writes, everyone is different.
I experimented early in recovery. It was rather stressful. I wouldn't put myself in that situation again, but as CreativeThinker writes, everyone is different.
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it is something to think about.
some things i have to ask myself when going anywhere there is alcohol:
do i have a legitimate reason for going?
if not, then best not to
Have I any good social, business, or personal reason for going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such?
if i am, best not to go
some things i have to ask myself when going anywhere there is alcohol:
do i have a legitimate reason for going?
if not, then best not to
Have I any good social, business, or personal reason for going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such?
if i am, best not to go
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