Article about Toxic Love vs Healthy Love

Old 06-16-2017, 03:27 PM
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Article about Toxic Love vs Healthy Love

Toxic Love VS Healthy Love: 14 Core Differences

This article: Toxic Love vs Healthy Love: 14 Core Differences popped up on Facebook, but thought it was a good list of things that I need to watch for in my codependent relationship.

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Love: Development of self first priority.
Toxic love: Obsession with relationship.

Love: Room to grow, expand; desire for others to grow.
Toxic love: Security, comfort in sameness; intensity of need seen as proof of love – may really be fear, insecurity, loneliness.

Love: Separate interests; other friends; maintain other meaningful relationships.
Toxic love: Total involvement; limited social life; neglect old friends, interests.
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Old 06-17-2017, 12:43 AM
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Solo, I remember seeing that article back when I was new to SR, and I saved it for future reference. I could go down the "toxic" list and check off almost all of the items as being characteristic of not only XAH's and my marriage but of every relationship I'd ever been in, all the way back to my teens. At least I was consistent, hey?

Anyway, I think it's a great article and does a good job of showing how healthy and unhealthy relationships differ from each other. Thanks for the useful post.
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Old 06-17-2017, 05:32 AM
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Thanks, honeypig. I didn't know this article has been around a while! I feel it will be a helpful checklist for self-awareness.
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Great thread to stumble upon this fine Monday morning. Thank you for posting!!!
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Old 06-19-2017, 12:00 PM
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there is a similar article on Joy2meu that i've posted a few times and has identical comparisons. REALLY good stuff, thanks for sharing SoloMio.

Toxic Love - the dysfunctional, addictive, cultural norm
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