9 months and (not) counting
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9 months and (not) counting
Hi everyone,
It's been a while since my last post here, but I feel like sharing where I am with my recovery. Things have been good so hopefully this can inspire some of you to keep going (SR posts surely inspired me!).
I have reached 9 months last week and it feels so natural I almost didn't realise it. Recovery was a pain to start with: two weeks of withdrawal, first was particularly bad and I missed work a few days; then I gained some clarity and saw cracks in my marriage, work, my parenting style, my health and happiness, but following advice I built a plan and stuck to it.
Dealing with triggers was hard until I realised that in the end of the day it was always down to me deciding to drink, and this is something I can always control. No more triggers since that.
Little by little things got better, not because I sobered up, but because being sober allowed me to take action to fix them.
I am relaxed and happy, my family is happy, work is good, I am setting up a business and drinking just doesn't fit anymore.
Bottom line is: this was unthinkable when I had my Day 1, but things change and they not only get easier, they also get good, really good.
Keep going everyone!
Mr P
It's been a while since my last post here, but I feel like sharing where I am with my recovery. Things have been good so hopefully this can inspire some of you to keep going (SR posts surely inspired me!).
I have reached 9 months last week and it feels so natural I almost didn't realise it. Recovery was a pain to start with: two weeks of withdrawal, first was particularly bad and I missed work a few days; then I gained some clarity and saw cracks in my marriage, work, my parenting style, my health and happiness, but following advice I built a plan and stuck to it.
Dealing with triggers was hard until I realised that in the end of the day it was always down to me deciding to drink, and this is something I can always control. No more triggers since that.
Little by little things got better, not because I sobered up, but because being sober allowed me to take action to fix them.
I am relaxed and happy, my family is happy, work is good, I am setting up a business and drinking just doesn't fit anymore.
Bottom line is: this was unthinkable when I had my Day 1, but things change and they not only get easier, they also get good, really good.
Keep going everyone!
Mr P
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Great report, MrPL. This is a great sentence and it's sooo true:
Little by little things got better, not because I sobered up, but because being sober allowed me to take action to fix them.
That's been my experience too. When I stopped drinking, it didn't solve my problems instantaneously, but it let me recognize and then deal with problems that I'd deferred by drinking. I didn't realize how much I was using being a drunk to not face up to some very real personal and emotional problems. Being sober made me face them, and as usual, it wasn't that bad once I started dealing with things in a sober and adult manner.
Little by little things got better, not because I sobered up, but because being sober allowed me to take action to fix them.
That's been my experience too. When I stopped drinking, it didn't solve my problems instantaneously, but it let me recognize and then deal with problems that I'd deferred by drinking. I didn't realize how much I was using being a drunk to not face up to some very real personal and emotional problems. Being sober made me face them, and as usual, it wasn't that bad once I started dealing with things in a sober and adult manner.
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Originally Posted by MrPL 
...but following advice I built a plan and stuck to it.
Dealing with triggers was hard until I realised that in the end of the day it was always down to me deciding to drink, and this is something I can always control. No more triggers since that.
Little by little things got better, not because I sobered up, but because being sober allowed me to take action to fix them.
Dealing with triggers was hard until I realised that in the end of the day it was always down to me deciding to drink, and this is something I can always control. No more triggers since that.
Little by little things got better, not because I sobered up, but because being sober allowed me to take action to fix them.
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Fantastically inspirational post, Mr. PL. I too found the inspiration to stop drinking, here on SR. As a consequence I no longer count days, because it's my newfound default position, freedom from drinking.
Exactly this. I'm so pleased for you and your family.
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Dealing with triggers was hard until I realised that in the end of the day it was always down to me deciding to drink, and this is something I can always control. No more triggers since that[Mr P
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