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Old 05-13-2017, 03:51 PM
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I don't belong in this world

I am feeling really hollow and sad right now. I am always alone. I have no friends. I haven't dated anyone in 8 years. I just feel like I don't belong in this world. I don't fit in.
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Old 05-13-2017, 03:55 PM
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I wish someone could have appreciated me in my life.
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Old 05-13-2017, 03:56 PM
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Has something happened to make you feel so sad?
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Old 05-13-2017, 04:10 PM
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Tell us more....get it out...we are here for you...we care!
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Old 05-13-2017, 04:12 PM
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Originally Posted by littlesongbird View Post
I am feeling really hollow and sad right now. I am always alone. I have no friends. I haven't dated anyone in 8 years. I just feel like I don't belong in this world. I don't fit in.
exactly as i felt when i was new in AA/ recovery

when i got sober at 29 i had barely ever even talked to a girl

now im happily married 22 years

keep coming back

and great honesty!

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Old 05-13-2017, 04:17 PM
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Hi littlesongbird

I'm sure you belong

I felt the same when I quit drinking tho - my life was drinking - with that gone it was almost as if I had to start again.

Think about your hobbies or interests - what do you like doing or what would you like to do? You can meet people that way?

Volunteering was also good for me - it got me relating with people again, and, hopefully, I did some good besides.

If you get out there, you'll give people a chance to appreciate you

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Old 05-13-2017, 04:26 PM
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I feel the same way. No real parents (except to pay their rent), few friends, and no siblings.

I just try to work my buns off to pay for things.
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Old 05-13-2017, 04:27 PM
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Hmnn... I was just thinking today of a metaphor to explain to non-alcoholics what I felt like the first few months when I was trying to get sober. And my answer today was, you're placed in a foreign country alone. You don't speak the language, know the culture, or have any friends. Should I go food shopping today? Is that what normal people do? What do I do when I come home from work now that I don't drink? But it does get better. You just have to be patient. You didn't create the mess overnight. It will take time to work yourself out of the hole. But it happens. You eventually start doing things which non-alcoholics do all the time, but you never did and become immensely proud of - try to cook, fill up an empty bird feeder, take your dog for long walks
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Old 05-13-2017, 04:49 PM
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Littlebird, alcoholism isolates us. I had similar feelings when I began recovery, too. But, you do belong here at SR and in the world. Allow yourself to grow in recovery. I agree with Dee about volunteering. It made a huge difference in my life in early recovery.
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Old 05-13-2017, 04:53 PM
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I have felt that way many, many times. The only thing that has ever helped me is asking for help. Whether it be from family, clergy, a group, or a complete stranger who is just willing to listen. I truly hope you find what you are looking for and know that I appreciate you for your honesty today.
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Old 05-13-2017, 05:38 PM
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You are not alone. SR community is here- you know that, you posted. Booze isolates- I did. Go to a meeting, sit- listen, just be around people. Go to church and have a cup of tea after- to connect, go to the library- to connect, go to the community centre- to connect. Sit in the shopping precinct have a coffee and be around people. Do not drink. The first step is hard- but with effort it gets better. The above s exactly what I did, it is far, far better tha feeling alone
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Old 05-13-2017, 05:39 PM
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oops- I had not discovered SR then either. POST LOTS- every time you feel more crap in your head- POST. Join some groups here. Share, read. EMPATHY AND COMPASSION AND SUPPORT TO YOU. you are not alone.
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Old 05-13-2017, 05:42 PM
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Good post, PhoenixJ!
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Old 05-13-2017, 05:52 PM
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You have friends here.
It's easy for this world to drag you down.
I honestly believe that we are never truly alone.
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Old 05-13-2017, 06:12 PM
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We care about you, littlesongbird - you're important to us. It makes me sad to think you feel alone. Your SR family is always around.
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Old 05-13-2017, 06:13 PM
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all anybody cares about is themselves and what they want.
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Old 05-13-2017, 06:16 PM
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and if you can't give them what they want or help them somehow get what they want - they don't care about you. and they just laugh at you.
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That's not true, littlesongbird. I know it seems that way sometimes, but it really isn't true.
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Old 05-13-2017, 06:21 PM
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Originally Posted by littlesongbird View Post
and if you can't give them what they want or help them somehow get what they want - they don't care about you. and they just laugh at you.
From the little I gather from what you've posted, maybe its time to seek out new people. Many of us know people who are like you described, but there are good people out there too. I assure you there are.
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Old 05-13-2017, 06:25 PM
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everyone does whatever they want. they dont care.
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