Making excuses for something I really don't want to do
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Making excuses for something I really don't want to do
Told myself I'd get to this meeting for past few nights. Each time, it's something else. Some reason to stay home.
Been doing this 12-step thing for over ten-years now. Had sponsors, did the steps... it just doesn't work for me. Guess that's what the BB means by AA not having a monopoly on recovery.
So tonight I cleaned up my apartment which was looking like ground zero after the past week of binging. Copied down some affirmations to start the day off with tomorrow.
Guess I'm just feeling guilty for not going to the meeting.
Been doing this 12-step thing for over ten-years now. Had sponsors, did the steps... it just doesn't work for me. Guess that's what the BB means by AA not having a monopoly on recovery.
So tonight I cleaned up my apartment which was looking like ground zero after the past week of binging. Copied down some affirmations to start the day off with tomorrow.
Guess I'm just feeling guilty for not going to the meeting.
Hi Rebel,
I'm just curious from your post ...
So are you now Happy, Joyous and Free ... instead of restless, irritable and discontent ... and don't feel like you have to justify yourself not wanting to spend your life in church basements?
Are you ok with responsible drinking, and the problems of alcoholism and addiction never were a problem or a reality for you? If so, many people get screwed up in life, and have problems with drugs and/or alcohol, and are able to 'snap out of it' and get their lives under control without AA, or other recovery programs.
I'm sober because of AA, and now continue going to meetings because new people keep showing up whose lives are in the gutter, some there for the 1st time, and some because they slipped back out into the complacency of believing they were ok to drink or drug again, only to find out they had the condition I have, which is that I can't drink or drug and be able to 'handle it'. I thank God that AA is there for them and me.
However, just as the book Alcoholics Anonymous states ... if anyone, such as yourself, can do a turnaround and be able to drink responsibly, our hats are off to them. And hopefully so for you. God Bless.
RDBplus3 ... Happy, Joyous and FREE
I'm just curious from your post ...
So are you now Happy, Joyous and Free ... instead of restless, irritable and discontent ... and don't feel like you have to justify yourself not wanting to spend your life in church basements?
Are you ok with responsible drinking, and the problems of alcoholism and addiction never were a problem or a reality for you? If so, many people get screwed up in life, and have problems with drugs and/or alcohol, and are able to 'snap out of it' and get their lives under control without AA, or other recovery programs.
I'm sober because of AA, and now continue going to meetings because new people keep showing up whose lives are in the gutter, some there for the 1st time, and some because they slipped back out into the complacency of believing they were ok to drink or drug again, only to find out they had the condition I have, which is that I can't drink or drug and be able to 'handle it'. I thank God that AA is there for them and me.
However, just as the book Alcoholics Anonymous states ... if anyone, such as yourself, can do a turnaround and be able to drink responsibly, our hats are off to them. And hopefully so for you. God Bless.
RDBplus3 ... Happy, Joyous and FREE
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Are you ok with responsible drinking, and the problems of alcoholism and addiction never were a problem or a reality for you? If so, many people get screwed up in life, and have problems with drugs and/or alcohol, and are able to 'snap out of it' and get their lives under control without AA, or other recovery programs.
I'm sober because of AA, and now continue going to meetings because new people keep showing up whose lives are in the gutter, some there for the 1st time, and some because they slipped back out into the complacency of believing they were ok to drink or drug again, only to find out they had the condition I have, which is that I can't drink or drug and be able to 'handle it'. I thank God that AA is there for them and me.
That really wasn't what my post was about.
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So why not go that route? Maybe use SR too and see what happens? I believe that there are many different roads to the same destination. One size does not fit all.
This time I joined SR and other than that am simply doing it by myself. Just waking up on day 21 and feeling good. I'm not sure if this will work out for me or not but I'm positive it's possible for some people to quit without the assistance of AA or other foundations.
Ultimately the devil makes work for idle hands. I think it's about having a positive purpose, keeping busy and understanding triggers. If you can do that without AA then good for you.
Whatever works long term is the only thing that is important.
Strength to you.
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Hey rebel,
I have read that there are so many ways to quit drinking. It's important that you use what works for you and supports your sobriety the way you need it to. I only use SR and it has changed my life. Your doing good just stay with it pal.
I have read that there are so many ways to quit drinking. It's important that you use what works for you and supports your sobriety the way you need it to. I only use SR and it has changed my life. Your doing good just stay with it pal.
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It's a bit more complicated than that. Due to being let go from my seasonal job, I am out of this apartment at beginning of the month. The only place I can think of is this place that temporarily puts up people in transition and is also a 12-step meeting place.
I figure if I go to some of the meetings it will make the transition easier.
I figure if I go to some of the meetings it will make the transition easier.
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It's a bit more complicated than that. Due to being let go from my seasonal job, I am out of this apartment at beginning of the month. The only place I can think of is this place that temporarily puts up people in transition and is also a 12-step meeting place.
I figure if I go to some of the meetings it will make the transition easier.
I figure if I go to some of the meetings it will make the transition easier.
"If he thinks he can do the job in some other way, or prefers some other spiritual approach, encourage him to follow his own conscience. We have no monopoly on God; we merely have an approach that worked with us." Page 95.
No monopoly on God but, for alcoholics of my type, according to my experience and expert medical opinion, pretty much a monopoly on permanent recovery. But then, you may not be an alcoholic of my type.
You mentioned in the last ten years you have done the steps. I am curious, which steps have you done, say, in the last week?
No monopoly on God but, for alcoholics of my type, according to my experience and expert medical opinion, pretty much a monopoly on permanent recovery. But then, you may not be an alcoholic of my type.
You mentioned in the last ten years you have done the steps. I am curious, which steps have you done, say, in the last week?
FWIW... There is no monopoly on recovery. But like you, never took to AA (Athiest here, but that is neither here nor there...) I went to my first SMART recovery meeting a couple of weeks ago, and it was the best thing I have ever done. Aside from SR.
I am an atheist, have been since I was a teen. I took to AA and loved it with all my heart. My sponsor and several of my AA friends were atheists and we all agree AA saved our lives.....or more accurately, we saved our lives by working the AA program.
There are, fortunately, plenty of other recovery programs that work.
There are some good threads discussing AVRT in the Secular Connections forum here on SR, and it is a good place to post any questions. You may also find information on AVRT via Google, and by reading the Rational Recovery book, which explains the technique in detail.
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