If peace is really what you want..
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If peace is really what you want..
"If peace is really what you want, then you will choose peace." -- Eckhart Tolle. This single statement has been the most important one on my journey to recovery from my codependent addiction to my AH.
I've struggled for many, many years with every increasing conflicts and troubles with my AH, married 18 years. It was constant upsetting drama for me. I clearly must not have wanted peace or I would have chosen it.
Now, we've been separated for almost 2 years, and life has been much quieter. I'm finally coming out of my depression, slowly, and found company of friends and a potential new relationship. It's very challenging and lonely at times, but it's so much better than the constant battles.
It's been seven month of no contact. He is blocked from my phone, from my life. He still tries to push my buttons and get my attention by sending people to my yard to steal my canoe, gas grill, boat motor, fishing equipment, etc., but technically he's entitled to half....so I will still practice non-reaction and choose peace.
I've struggled for many, many years with every increasing conflicts and troubles with my AH, married 18 years. It was constant upsetting drama for me. I clearly must not have wanted peace or I would have chosen it.
Now, we've been separated for almost 2 years, and life has been much quieter. I'm finally coming out of my depression, slowly, and found company of friends and a potential new relationship. It's very challenging and lonely at times, but it's so much better than the constant battles.
It's been seven month of no contact. He is blocked from my phone, from my life. He still tries to push my buttons and get my attention by sending people to my yard to steal my canoe, gas grill, boat motor, fishing equipment, etc., but technically he's entitled to half....so I will still practice non-reaction and choose peace.
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Oh my, how I longed for peace in my life!
I would lie in bed and think how lucky my neighbors were everyday to just have an average drama free day. Go to bed and sleep tight and wake up to a dull normal life.
I knew peace could come if I could put my puzzle pieces of my life together properly but I never knew how or what to do with the pieces. I was hopeless and clueless.
Started to get direction only after figuring out my codependency. Now my pieces are starting to fit.
Only halfway now. But peace is coming. I can see an outline. Woohoo
I would lie in bed and think how lucky my neighbors were everyday to just have an average drama free day. Go to bed and sleep tight and wake up to a dull normal life.
I knew peace could come if I could put my puzzle pieces of my life together properly but I never knew how or what to do with the pieces. I was hopeless and clueless.
Started to get direction only after figuring out my codependency. Now my pieces are starting to fit.
Only halfway now. But peace is coming. I can see an outline. Woohoo
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Originally Posted by Saint Francis 
"If peace is really what you want, then you will choose peace." -- Eckhart Tolle. This single statement has been the most important one on my journey to recovery from my codependent addiction to my AH.
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Originally Posted by Saint Francis
"If peace is really what you want, then you will choose peace." -- Eckhart Tolle.
I hope that I'm always able to choose peace.
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