The final countdown..
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The final countdown..
AH gets out of inpatient on Friday and I'm having a mixture of emotions from sad, upset, guilty, rage, and numbness.
I am nervous about seeing him after so long (yes, it's only been 20 days, but when you have been together 24/7 for the past 6 years and have no family around you...it's a long time to me).
My AH's therapist in the inpatient facility described us as 'survivors'. We have been through so much separately and together (and I'm even leaving out all the alcoholism). We have no family around us and we rely on each other heavily. This is something we both have to work on.
I went to my first Al-Anon meeting and though I was nervous and completely confused as to format - I will be going back again. I plan on trying out different ones until I find a good fit for me.
I am nervous about seeing him after so long (yes, it's only been 20 days, but when you have been together 24/7 for the past 6 years and have no family around you...it's a long time to me).
My AH's therapist in the inpatient facility described us as 'survivors'. We have been through so much separately and together (and I'm even leaving out all the alcoholism). We have no family around us and we rely on each other heavily. This is something we both have to work on.
I went to my first Al-Anon meeting and though I was nervous and completely confused as to format - I will be going back again. I plan on trying out different ones until I find a good fit for me.
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AH gets out of inpatient on Friday and I'm having a mixture of emotions from sad, upset, guilty, rage, and numbness.
I am nervous about seeing him after so long (yes, it's only been 20 days, but when you have been together 24/7 for the past 6 years and have no family around you...it's a long time to me).
My AH's therapist in the inpatient facility described us as 'survivors'. We have been through so much separately and together (and I'm even leaving out all the alcoholism). We have no family around us and we rely on each other heavily. This is something we both have to work on.
I went to my first Al-Anon meeting and though I was nervous and completely confused as to format - I will be going back again. I plan on trying out different ones until I find a good fit for me.
I am nervous about seeing him after so long (yes, it's only been 20 days, but when you have been together 24/7 for the past 6 years and have no family around you...it's a long time to me).
My AH's therapist in the inpatient facility described us as 'survivors'. We have been through so much separately and together (and I'm even leaving out all the alcoholism). We have no family around us and we rely on each other heavily. This is something we both have to work on.
I went to my first Al-Anon meeting and though I was nervous and completely confused as to format - I will be going back again. I plan on trying out different ones until I find a good fit for me.
Hugs. Best of luck to you both. Good to hear positive progress and totally understand the nervousness.
I hope you keep trying. Alanon isn't for everyone, but I think it definitely does have something to offer, even if only for a portion of your recovery. It wasn't the whole answer for me, but definitely is a part of the puzzle and I'm grateful for what I have learned and continue to learn from that source.
Seeing a husband and wife attending
recovery meetings together is awesome
to me. To see them sitting together I can
sense that they are living a recovery
program in their lives. It absolutely
shows on them. In their eyes, their smiles,
their demeaner or air about them.
If you understand what I'm trying to say.
You can tell that they still love each
other because they chose to incorporate
a recovery program in their marriage
to strengthen the bond between them.
Many marriages don't make it and
yet many do because they both do
the footwork and choose to make it.
I hope you both work together in building
a more stronger, heathier, sober, loving,
caring bond between the 2 of you for many
more yrs ahead of you.
Understanding and communication
is extremely important as you both
move forward.
recovery meetings together is awesome
to me. To see them sitting together I can
sense that they are living a recovery
program in their lives. It absolutely
shows on them. In their eyes, their smiles,
their demeaner or air about them.
If you understand what I'm trying to say.
You can tell that they still love each
other because they chose to incorporate
a recovery program in their marriage
to strengthen the bond between them.
Many marriages don't make it and
yet many do because they both do
the footwork and choose to make it.
I hope you both work together in building
a more stronger, heathier, sober, loving,
caring bond between the 2 of you for many
more yrs ahead of you.
Understanding and communication
is extremely important as you both
move forward.
I used to go once in a while with my first husband to a meeting. But I didn't go to all of them--it was an occasional thing when there was a good reason.
Just my two cents.
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