Stewy84

Slipped again last night at a gig

Drunk again, regrets again this morning, got to get a hold on it now, today and every day following

Sent my girlfriend long messages out of frustration with the situation

Bad idea because it's just made things worse

Alcohol is not the answer for me

Dee74

No its not Stewy but until you actively work for change, alcohol is the only tool you have to deal with things.

Sure you're posting here, but posting here after you drink is not using this place to its full capacity, and you're a smart enough bloke to realise that..

I'll say it again cos it's really important:

Alcohol is your only life tool right now. That needs to change.

Start putting other things in place - today.

Every day you don't do something to not drink just digs you in deeper and makes the effort required that much more.

D

Forward12

If you're serious about sobriety, you've got to start taking it serious. Make tomorrow they day to end the madness. Start hitting up AA, schedule an appoint with a therapist your doc suggested, or if you need something a bit more, make some calls to get yourself into rehab.

tomsteve

insanity- doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.

PhoenixJ

There are many of is who do, say, post bad stuff when drunk. Stuff that hurts, that sticks. As my ex said 'you meant it because you did it, said it'. I hope you do not drink- get to a doc, meetings- see a counsellor, work out a plan.
Support to you.

Done4today

You know that you need to stop. So stop before grave negative consequences occur. Talking about stopping, hoping you will stop, deciding to stop are all futile until you actually take action on these thoughts.

jacktryingagain

stewy you poured your cans away yesterday ,decided to quit ,,, then went out to a gig the same evening

now in all honesty , how did you expect that to work ?

Soberwolf

This whole issue with your girlfriend is ripping your life apart and it's heartbreaking Stewy I know your in a world of hurt right now but drinking is just rubbing the proverbial salt into that wound

This can't continue for your sake brother & those around you

ScottFromWI

You have to quit before you can "slip" Stewy. I think you are right that you need to get a grip on the situation, because you have been pretty much drinking every day since you came back here on March 23. That's about a 3 week binge if you need some context.

There's a lot of things you could do today, like right now that would help. Going to bars is not one of them, and obsessing about your ex is not either. Why not try one of these:
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1. Go to an AA meeting
2. Make the therapist appointment your doctor recommended last week.
3. Quit going to bars
4. Spend more time here before you drink and try to work through some of the feelings
5. Seriously consider detox/rehab.....sometimes major problems require major solutions.

dcg

If music is his livelihood, then it's really hard to avoid.

Berrybean

Stewy, do you think you CAN play gigs sober? If not, perhaps you need to be considering alternatives. You don't need to answer that question on here. It's pretty much all an inside job. It's ourselves we need to be honest with. It's only through being completely honest with ourselves that we can figure out what the options are for moving forward. If doing gigs sober is just howling for the moon, then perhaps it's time to identify what the realistic choices are for you as you move forward.

Wishing you all the best for your recovery. BB

Nonsensical

I always marvel at the way we describe our behavior. "Slip" implies an accident. Something happened to you over which you had no control.

I can't control whether or not I feel like drinking, but the actions or buying, dispensing, and pouring alcohol into my face were never done by accident.

I never once fell off the wagon. I always jumped. Eventually I got tired of the bruises that was leaving. I hope you do, too, Stewy.

Best of Luck on Your Journey.

jacktryingagain

i beg your pardon I wasnt aware he was a musician , my apologizes Stewy

dcg

I always thought the word slip was chosen as the acronym to mean:

Sobriety Losing Its Priority


I don't know if he is or not because the word may be used differently regionally, but here in the states, "I did xyz at a gig" means musician did xyz while working at the club.

Delizadee

Be careful, because you can slip right down into a deep dark pit that you may never get out of.
You choose to slip, just like a kid chooses to jump on a slip & slide.
You need to PLAN to head that choice off at the pass, when those thoughts start creeping in.
I didn't notice if it's been mentioned here yet or not, but have you thought of or started a recovery plan?

Dee74

I'd forgotten you were a muso Stewy

I stepped away from playing music in general for several years - my recovery was that important to me - so it's hard sure, but not impossible.

I've been back playing for several years now, happily sober, so that can be done too.

I really needed to put clear distance between who I had been and who I wanted to be tho, at least initially.

As tough as it might be Stewy - you're really struggling , man... you might have to consider stepping down from the band for a bit?

D

Outonthetiles

If you can't play sober, time for a new occupation. Musicians play sober.

tomsteve

lots of sober musicians out there today with one main common occurance- they stepped away from music to get clean/sober- to work on recovery and learn how to live.