Want to change job to deal with my alcoholism
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Want to change job to deal with my alcoholism
Been a contractor for this one company for 4 years off and on. The job is in my field of schooling I got but with my binge problem I have every 6 to 11 month which last 4 to 5 days. It happen last week. I know I'm still trying to deal with handle not drinking but it gets hard when you have to drive an hour one way and you are by yourself most of the day and only reason you work there is for the paycheck. The people are good but don't feel like it's a good environment for myself. I may get let go which would be a good thing and find an office job with people around me. I work in that type of environment 2 years ago for 4 months which I enjoy going to over this job. This job does pay more per hour but because it contract work instead of w2 or w4, I made less when I paying taxes at the end of the year.
Yes, I'm trying hard to keep myself sober which I know I have become a broken record slipping. My drinking problem is not all about this job but it's not helping me stay sober. How should I handle this. I have put my resume out to all the job site in January which i get calls but i cant tell them I'm not looking. but I don't want this job hurt me in the long run when finding real employment and not contract work. Also I have a $10k of IRS I will need to pay that I have the money to pay but only because I'm living at my parents place.
Yes, I'm trying hard to keep myself sober which I know I have become a broken record slipping. My drinking problem is not all about this job but it's not helping me stay sober. How should I handle this. I have put my resume out to all the job site in January which i get calls but i cant tell them I'm not looking. but I don't want this job hurt me in the long run when finding real employment and not contract work. Also I have a $10k of IRS I will need to pay that I have the money to pay but only because I'm living at my parents place.
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I think of you want a new job, the imprtant thing would be to have it before you leave the old one. Work is good for the soul, so being self supporting wont do your attempt at sobriety any harm.
But IME, a new job, a better job or no job at all will have no effect on whether you can get sober or not. It is a common thing for an alcoholic to look at what external circumstances we can change to fix our selves. New job, new town, new girlfriend are some of the things we have tried. Until we accept that it is not an external problem, and start addressing that, little progress is likely.
But IME, a new job, a better job or no job at all will have no effect on whether you can get sober or not. It is a common thing for an alcoholic to look at what external circumstances we can change to fix our selves. New job, new town, new girlfriend are some of the things we have tried. Until we accept that it is not an external problem, and start addressing that, little progress is likely.
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Hi ACT1ONpack - it's a common theory and an understandable hope - but you've been a member here for a lot longer than 4 years.....
what if you leave the job and it doesn't help these 'slips'?
Perhaps it's not an external problem at all - but an internal one, maybe?
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what if you leave the job and it doesn't help these 'slips'?
Perhaps it's not an external problem at all - but an internal one, maybe?
D
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Originally Posted by Gottalife 
I think of you want a new job, the important thing would be to have it before you leave the old one. Work is good for the soul, so being self-supporting won't do your attempt at sobriety any harm.
But IME, a new job, a better job or no job at all will have no effect on whether you can get sober or not. It is a common thing for an alcoholic to look at what external circumstances we can change to fix ourselves. New job, new town, new girlfriend are some of the things we have tried. Until we accept that it is not an external problem, and start addressing that, little progress is likely.
But IME, a new job, a better job or no job at all will have no effect on whether you can get sober or not. It is a common thing for an alcoholic to look at what external circumstances we can change to fix ourselves. New job, new town, new girlfriend are some of the things we have tried. Until we accept that it is not an external problem, and start addressing that, little progress is likely.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Hi ACT1ONpack - it's a common theory and an understandable hope - but you've been a member here for a lot longer than 4 years.....
what if you leave the job and it doesn't help these 'slips'?
Perhaps it's not an external problem at all - but an internal one, maybe?
D
what if you leave the job and it doesn't help these 'slips'?
Perhaps it's not an external problem at all - but an internal one, maybe?
D
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I believe that our surroundings are important in encouraging (or detracting from) the quality of our life in recovery.
That life of recovery is predicated on the decision that we will not drink, no matter what. A different job for you, or a "safe" one like I had at my start to sobriety (I worked at Chick-fil-A, a positive, great place to be to help me establish a new sober routine) are helpful, but not the real answer as others have said.
How badly do you want to be sober? Have you accepted - truly- that your life is unmanageable (you describe IRS bills, living with your parents, other stuff that a lot of us have been through that is not good) and it's time to quit?
You can, if you want to, regardless of your surroundings, other people (I now work in a restaurant so I am around alcohol all the time, often have late/difficult hours, etc) and anything else.
Good luck.
That life of recovery is predicated on the decision that we will not drink, no matter what. A different job for you, or a "safe" one like I had at my start to sobriety (I worked at Chick-fil-A, a positive, great place to be to help me establish a new sober routine) are helpful, but not the real answer as others have said.
How badly do you want to be sober? Have you accepted - truly- that your life is unmanageable (you describe IRS bills, living with your parents, other stuff that a lot of us have been through that is not good) and it's time to quit?
You can, if you want to, regardless of your surroundings, other people (I now work in a restaurant so I am around alcohol all the time, often have late/difficult hours, etc) and anything else.
Good luck.
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Unless you're a bartender.... I don't recommend quitting your job.
Adding stress and financial worry to your life is unlikely to make you sober.
If you wish to make a job change - by all means work on it and do it with a plan in a way that won't impair you financially or otherwise.
Meanwhile, you will find much better results in your drinking problem - and perhaps even discover enjoyment in your work - by embracing sobriety and taking steps to support a sober life.
What have you tried so far, in choosing sobriety?
Seldom has anyone curEd a drinking problem by running from it.
Adding stress and financial worry to your life is unlikely to make you sober.
If you wish to make a job change - by all means work on it and do it with a plan in a way that won't impair you financially or otherwise.
Meanwhile, you will find much better results in your drinking problem - and perhaps even discover enjoyment in your work - by embracing sobriety and taking steps to support a sober life.
What have you tried so far, in choosing sobriety?
Seldom has anyone curEd a drinking problem by running from it.
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^^^Freeowl - I had to smile at the comment about being a bartender. As a server, the restaurant where I work is the perfect place for me. It is also quite surprising at first how many people who are in recovery work in the industry. For some of us (I believe, it is because my problem has been removed and I work to keep it that way) it is actually a perfect place to be.
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl
Unless you're a bartender.... I don't recommend quitting your job.
Adding stress and financial worry to your life is unlikely to make you sober.
If you wish to make a job change - by all means work on it and do it with a plan in a way that won't impair you financially or otherwise.
Meanwhile, you will find much better results in your drinking problem - and perhaps even discover enjoyment in your work - by embracing sobriety and taking steps to support a sober life.
What have you tried so far, in choosing sobriety?
Seldom has anyone curEd a drinking problem by running from it.
Adding stress and financial worry to your life is unlikely to make you sober.
If you wish to make a job change - by all means work on it and do it with a plan in a way that won't impair you financially or otherwise.
Meanwhile, you will find much better results in your drinking problem - and perhaps even discover enjoyment in your work - by embracing sobriety and taking steps to support a sober life.
What have you tried so far, in choosing sobriety?
Seldom has anyone curEd a drinking problem by running from it.
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Originally Posted by ACT10Npack
I understand what you mean. My plan was not to get drunk just to get fired, so I can look for a job I want. It was a poor/bad choice to do. But if I get fired then I will need to look at the bright side of things. I can take the job I want serious and get in an environment I will find enjoy again.
You could do a lot of things now that would help
1. Participate in a local support group
2. See what resources are available locally like counseling/rehab/etc. There are many times free or low cost alternatives
3. Check into your local community for job/carreer assistance. There are a whole host of places you can go and find people who can help you work on your resume, and help you find job skills training,etc.
4. Spend more constructive time here on SR working on sobriety
5. You mentioned that you drive a lot for work, you could possibly look at some podcasts or other self-help type recordings to listen to on your way back and forth to work each day.
All of those things will be of benefit now, whether you find a new job or keep the old one.
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Originally Posted by Gottalife
I think of you want a new job, the imprtant thing would be to have it before you leave the old one. Work is good for the soul, so being self supporting wont do your attempt at sobriety any harm.
But IME, a new job, a better job or no job at all will have no effect on whether you can get sober or not. It is a common thing for an alcoholic to look at what external circumstances we can change to fix our selves. New job, new town, new girlfriend are some of the things we have tried. Until we accept that it is not an external problem, and start addressing that, little progress is likely.
But IME, a new job, a better job or no job at all will have no effect on whether you can get sober or not. It is a common thing for an alcoholic to look at what external circumstances we can change to fix our selves. New job, new town, new girlfriend are some of the things we have tried. Until we accept that it is not an external problem, and start addressing that, little progress is likely.
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